Petty moan about saying Thank You

[Iamnotagoddess]

DSD1 refuses to say thank you at mealtimes.

Everyone finishes their meal, one person says thanks Goddess that was lovely, or just thanks, almost automatically everyone else follows suit, including DSD2. DSD1 just sits there and when given a subtle “look” by her dad says “what?” In the way only a 14 year old can. Why make such an issue of not saying it and appearing rude?!

Send presents to DSIS and family abroad she says thanks for hers as do her 2DC but BIL never does. Sent him a bday gift DSIS asked me to send. Texted him on his bday, no reply. Texted DSIS to ask if gift had arrived “yes. Thanks” turns out it arrived a few weeks before and he had been using it but no “thank you” or even a text to say it had arrived.

AIBU? WTF is wrong with people?!

Thank you btw in advance

Hate it with a passion OP. My husbands entire family are rude and pig ignorant too,they never ever say thank you to anything. Manners cost nothing in my view. Shocking behaviour that makes my blood boil.Thank you for letting me have a rant on your thread by the way I appreciate it.

stop feeding DSD1 and stop sending presents to BIL.

OK the latter. For the former - give nice dessert to the others but not DSD1? Just say "why are you so rude?" does she need a pointed look? that's a bit PA. How about her dad says "DSD1 don't you have something to say to goddess after she made you a nice meal?"
Make DSD1 cook for everyone?

I might try “DSD1 - did you mean to be so rude?!”

My children must be the only ones that don't say thank you for a meal I prepared!

I love it when students thank me for a lesson. Dcs are older so generally thank me for a meal because they do have to fend for themselves on occasion. What does Dsd do when at other houses eg Gps or friends?

I loathe and detest bad manners. Whilst I don't think I'd win any "mother of the year" awards, I have bust a gut to ensure that my kids are polite. And they are. They would never get out of the car without thanking me for the lift.
I remember one of the dinner ladies at their school telling me once that ds was about the only child in the school who said thank you when they served him his food.

I have no idea - doesn’t see her GPS and I don’t think gets invited to friends very much

I also hate this, its plain rudeness.

On the other hand does anyone else cringe whilst going through every gratitude in existence when someone opens and holds a door for example? "Cheers" on approach "thank you" on entry "thanks that's great" as you walk past etc, it's so British it hurts.

@meow1989

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My mum had 6 of us. We were not allowed to leave the table without asking.
It's something I also done with my own dd's. I also made sure they always say thank you.