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Moving house - one room feels off?!

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itsnotallrainbows · 20/10/2019 00:07

We currently rent and went to look at a more family home, more space and bigger rooms perfect! We viewed the property and we loved it. Except one thing has been playing on my mind I felt normal throughout the whole viewing but one bedroom to the rear of the house I just had a bad feeling, I felt sick just generally off! And what’s weird is downstairs I felt the same in the kitchen (below that bedroom!) I’m trying to shake the thought off because we are going for the house and my partner thinks I’m going mad! Ha! Anyone had anything similar? The bedroom i have mentioned will be my sons room which makes me more nervous! But no explanation why

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SunshineAngel · 20/10/2019 05:59

Don't take it. You have to live in this house, and you don't want to feel like that in any part of your own home.

I was on holiday in Ireland once, and hated stepping foot in the bedroom I'd been given in the cottage. Like you, I just felt that something wasn't right, and tbh I never felt quite "alone" if that makes sense (and I'm not one that shouts about ghosts and spirits and things).

Don't take this house. You will regret it.

BBInGinDrinking · 20/10/2019 06:07

never felt quite alone

That too.

MyOtherProfile · 20/10/2019 09:28

That's beautiful lavender

Meshy23 · 20/10/2019 10:46

Agree that there is no point buying this house, whether it’s because of woo or any number of other reasons. Even if you feel ok on a second visit I think you may always have a feeling about the house now because of your first visit.

@littlepaddypaws - I just read your post. I’m just curious - did you actually see those “beings” or feel you experienced them in some way? I’m not into woo but I definitely had to read your post twice and it has left me fascinated!

Smidge001 · 20/10/2019 10:53

At least go for a second viewing and see if you get the same feeling. Maybe it's just the last person in there was wearing a stinky perfume and it was lingering and making you feel sick. Maybe the light was at a funny angle and any other time of day is fine.

I can't imagine telling anyone I didn't buy my perfect house coz one time when I walked in one room I felt a bit funny...

477964z · 20/10/2019 11:02

There have been quite a few similar threads like this before!

I wouldn’t want to move somewhere where I felt like that, however irrational. I’ve lived in places where I’ve felt really freaked out and too scared to go downstairs in the middle of the night home alone, which as a grown adult is ridiculous I know, and it’s an awful feeling. Living in a house where I feel secure and settled and calm and peaceful is really important to me. My current house I feel so safe and secure, no issues at all walking around in the middle of the night if I’m alone and it’s a lovely feeling. Wouldn’t want to move in somewhere where it gave me a bad vibe even if I could never be sure why it was I felt that way.

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 20/10/2019 11:30

Don't take the house OP

Listen to your feelings

Years ago, mid 60s, we got a two up two down (flat in a divided house basically), 2 bedrooms . Mum headed for one and said "Oh, the baby can have her own room D" to my Dad . He wasn't having it . Wasn't happy at all so my cot was put in with my parents for the 3 years we were there (bed bought in time so not always in cot)
One night when DD was on nights Mum went to talk with the lady upstairs and have a cuppa . Told her about the room and she said "Not surprised , the last occupant killed himself in that room" :O

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 20/10/2019 11:31

My poor Mum lol All of 22 , dad at work all that night . She said she put every single light on in that flat after hearing the tale .

Lyingonthesofainthedark · 20/10/2019 11:33

Possibly the house is north facing at the bqck and you instinctively don't like that.

Candymay · 20/10/2019 12:07

I lived in a flat for a year many years ago and I was unhappy there. The bedroom in particular gave me such a bad feeling that I still remember it. The block seemed to be a new build- that’s what I believed but I think actually they were old and refurbished because I’ve seen old photos on a history group I belong to.

Don’t be pressured into taking this house. Listen to your instincts.

WhentheRabbitsWentWild · 20/10/2019 12:15

@Candymay its not always what is there now its what WAS sometimes.

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 20/10/2019 12:30

I had a chat with a master stonemason a few years ago, and he asked me 'have you ever been in a church that just didn't feel right?' Yep. According to him, a lot of it is to do with angles/light/symmetry in rooms and buildings. If there's something off in one of those, then no matter what you do, you'll feel permanently on edge when you're there.

So another vote to say forget this house OP Smile

Puzzledandpissedoff · 20/10/2019 12:39

Another vote here for a second viewing; it's just possible something else was affecting you and the house "got the blame", but if you feel the same way again it would be a definite no for me

Conversely I simply had to have my current, forever home - even though it was a complete mess - because of its wonderful atmosphere. Three years on, just being here feels like getting a warm hug and I smile every time I come home to it

Always trust your instinct Smile

BadSun · 20/10/2019 12:40

She'll feel uncomfortable every time she's home? Would you want to live somewhere that made you feel uncomfortable?

Well of course not, but if I loved a house but didn't like one room, I wouldn't give up on the whole house! I'd just change that room so that it didn't make me feel uncomfortable anymore. A space can't inherently make you feel ill! Just redecorate, check for gas leaks, etc.

OpenCarefully · 20/10/2019 13:32

We went to view a house few years back. House was beautiful, loved the location, the layout, good size rooms, nice big kitchen, lovely enclosed garden ect. Everything about the house was perfect. But all time we were there looking I had a weird feeling that somebody was watching me and I shouldn't be there. In the garden I had a feeling someone is watching me through the window. Couldn't explain it, just weird sensation someone else was there. We didn't buy the house. Later I found out that owner's wife had died in that house. I think she was probably still 'in the house' watching other people entering her property.

Justaboy · 20/10/2019 13:43

Later I found out that owner's wife had died in that house. I think she was probably still 'in the house' watching other people entering her property

DD2 is living in our old family home. GD1 is living there in the same room that poor old grand died in when she came to stay with us but thus far no compaints from GD1 apart from a few odd cries in the night but no other complaints.

I'd like to think that old gran is keeping watch on her:)

ThatLibraryMiss · 20/10/2019 15:34

House near here on a hill top several people have died there with various cancers no one seem to know why.

Bloody great power lines go right over the house!

Concidence?.

Yes. Randomness is lumpy. The human brain likes to see patterns. Correlation is not causation.

BadSun · 20/10/2019 15:39

Yes. Randomness is lumpy. The human brain likes to see patterns. Correlation is not causation

Although houses on hilltops are certainly 78% more likely to be haunted.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 20/10/2019 16:20

Nope, I wouldn't buy a house that made me feel uncomfortable for any reason.

Odd doesn't have to be bad though, my last (very old) house had some odd things happening in it - things in the attic moving, flickering orbs of light in front of windows, a phase where there often seemed to be someone or something moving just out of the corner of your eye, sudden smells of pipe smoke etc. But none of it ever felt threatening, it just felt like the house - and its history - going about its business.

Go back for a second viewing and see how you feel. But I don't think you'd be at all unjustified in saying you don't want to live somewhere that makes you feel uncomfortable.

wondering7777 · 20/10/2019 16:22

But none of it ever felt threatening, it just felt like the house - and its history - going about its business.

That’s a nice way of putting it!

RingPiece · 20/10/2019 16:23

Nah, don't do it. There was one bedroom in my second year university shared house that nobody wanted. We all felt sick when we set foot over the threshold. Luckily, one of us spent most of the time with her boyfriend at his house and so agreed to have the room. She stayed once or twice in the whole year. After a night spent there, she was inexplicably and physically sick the next morning.

Anyway, that room features very highly in my dreams - more like nightmares. In my dream I'm trying to block the doorway up but something shadowy and utterly sinister is seeping out from the gaps between the door and frame. I'm terrified in the dream. Almost 20 years ago since uni.

wondering7777 · 20/10/2019 16:25

Later I found out that owner's wife had died in that house.

It sounds like you had an eerie experience, but to be honest I think almost every old house will have had at least one person die in them. I’m pretty sure mine has!

wondering7777 · 20/10/2019 16:28

One room in particular we shut off and didn't use at all, which seemed to improve how things felt generally

@BBInGinDrinking what was so wrong with that particular room, out of interest?

This thread is fascinating!

Ceefa2 · 20/10/2019 16:32

No, look for another house. Could be something, could be nothing but you should be excited about moving to a new house, not worried about it.

I rented a house, downstairs was open plan so could see up the stairs when sat in front room. When I viewed the house it was lovely and bright and airy. But when we moved in I was constantly looking over my shoulder up the stairs, just felt like I was being watched.
Found out off a neighbour that someone had been stabbed in an upstairs bedroom!
Eventually gutted the bedroom and redecorated. Ended up living there 8 years, all was fine and the 'woo' feelings went. I loved that house in the end!

MRex · 20/10/2019 16:34

Most likely a gas leak, carbon monoxide leak, some light mould or rising damp. You can sense more than you realise, sometimes danger is real.

I wouldn't live there.

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