NOT to insist I be driven all the way home

[TheSecondMrsAshwell]

I'm going on holiday to the West Country with a friend (who I would love to be my DP, but not sure how he feels). Anyway, he offered to drive me all the way home. He lives in SW London, I live in NE, so that would involve pretty much a circuit of London. In the Saturday rush hour. I said no, because I can get a train into central London from where he lives and then the tube pretty much to my front door.

My BFF thinks I should insist he brings me all the way to my door. Given that he will drive me from his down to the West Country and back, plus wherever I want to go while we're there, AIBU to say it's alright for him NOT to bring me all the way home, but drop me somewhere I can get home from easily?

I'll be sharing petrol costs etc, but it would seem like taking the piss to demand he brings me all the way. Am I BU, or is my friend? I would get her point if he would leave me in the middle of nowhere, but he'll see me onto the train and I'm okay with that.

I'd do the same as you. But as you fancy him, I probably wouldn't say no if he insisted on bringing you home!

Oh if he insists I'll be in like Flynn.

But he has 5 nights to make his move, or respond to mine. If he wants to.

Going equipped, just to be on the safe side, though.

I would always get dropped off at a local tube/train station and make my own way home. Obviously if he insists on dropping you home, then that's a nice sign Have a lovely trip.

Well if he's going to drive you home he might as well stay over

When do you go?

Invite him in after, twit a woo

As a driver, I would expect anyone to whom I offered a lift to both offer to get the train home and be prepared for me to deliver them to the door

If he might be a future partner, best get him used to being considerate. And get yourself used to accepting favours graciously. Hope it goes well.

I’m not bothered about the travel arrangements... I’m just hanging around hopeful for updates on a new romance! Good luck OP 😉

The whole point of excellent London Public Transport is to stop people sitting in traffic for an hour and a half (and the same back).

Your friend is ridiculous.

However, it seems like a decision to be made closer to the time

Hope it happens for you!

The whole point of excellent London Public Transport is to stop people sitting in traffic for an hour and a half (and the same back).

This^^ totally is my thinking. He's bound to cop the traffic somewhere.

If it doesn't happen while we're away, we'll still have a bloody good time.

As for him staying at mine...... Me, him and the cat in my single bed. That would be interesting

Let him drive you all the way and then be very grateful for it

We had a damn fine time but did not DTD - He was so sweet, but it wasn't what he wanted. A shame, but as some of you said, I needed to be gracious..... So I "womaned up" and took the great time we had as it was......

And he made me feel beautiful, valued and perfect as a person without a 4* shagging.

That's the yardstick I'll use in future.

Oh and it was pissing down with a capital "PI....." when we got back to the outskirts of London - he was so tired after driving in the rotten weather that he was all tooooo happy to drop me off at his local station.

So it all worked out well in the end.

Urgh! Why wasnt it what he wanted? Great to hear you had a good time and thanks for updating :)

He sees me as a friend - full stop. I believe he's straight, but it just doesn't seem to be what he wants. I have to respect that, no matter what I want, if I want to keep him in my life.

And I do.

I understand where I stand now - we were alone in a room with a bed on several occasions. He did not choose to make any sort of move, so I now know what he wants,

So there we are. It cuts both ways.

So annoying. You sound great OP, really switched on. At least you can move on to something else x