to think these are fine choices for tea?

[Rocktheboot]

spaghetti Bolognese, ham/cheese sandwich, crisps, jacket potatoe, jam sandwich, fresh pineapple, rhubarb crumble, bread and butter pudding.

I need a sanity check. it's 'all' I have to the house and DD is having a tantrum that there is 'nothing to eat

Yanbu

She’s hardly going to starve is she?

You don't say how old DD is... but frankly unless she has very high level additional needs she is being a baggage.

Tell her to stop being such a brat.

What exactly does she want? That’s loads of choice.

YANBU of course. How old is she?

she is being a baggage

All perfectly reasonable options.

she is 8, but yes @baggage, she has extreme anxiety. and I honestly loose sight of what is 'normal' sometimes. I was pretty sure I wasn't being an abusive mother in this case. but you would think so, judging by the hours of wailing that we have had 😣

yes, she is definitely a baggage!

You've just listed an excellent assortment of food.

What exactly does she want?

this is the eternal question @Sexnotgender

Shame about the anxiety, is food triggering for her?

But yes that’s a fine amount of food in the house!

Can I come to yours for tea please? I love all of those options

I’d go ham toastie and then bread and butter pudding and custard.

You do have custard too, right? ;)

Seriously, you’re doing fine and she’s being unreasonable.

Anxiety is not an excuse for being picky. She eats what you cook or she goes without. She won’t starve. Sounds like controlling behaviour.

@nonevernotever I know, right! it's so disheartening

Perfectly good choices.
What does she want, just out of interest?

If you have flour and eggs you could make pancakes.
You can also make pancakes without eggs if you don't have any

is food triggering for her?

I think I've just had a light bulb moment @Atalune!!

it bloody is. I dread feeding times

I think it's been a boiling frog situation, with the range of what she will eat getting smaller and smaller. she won't drink out of cups/mugs/glasses and hasn't for ages, because they are 'dirty'. (they aren't. we have a dishwasher)

You do have custard too, right? ;)

if she had agreed to the puddings, THAT would have been her question! AND. I. DONT!! 😱😱😱

Does she have anxiety or is she a fussy brat and you have anxiety?

Dinner on plate. 2 options eat or don't. Pudding offered regardless of main eating.

Ours started signs of fussing but they ate well at nursery so we adopted their rules and boom

@Nutellalovesme bingo! I bet she will eat a waffle. thanks. I'll ask her

If you were catering for vegetarians I'd say shit.

But its for a child who presumably ate the choices at some point so yanbu

At my house they eat what there is or go hungry

Does she have anxiety or is she a fussy brat and you have anxiety?

lol 😁

no, it's definitely HER!

At my house they eat what there is or go hungry

this works with 'normal' children, I know