Confused & how to get energy to separate?

[SpagBowl99]

Hi all, I am confused. I feel like I need to separate from my partner, but I am struggling to set the wheels in motion, it feels like a mammoth task.

Should I rent a place and just get one with it? Then sort finances and joint house out later

When I discuss it I am told will ruin DC life, how much harder will be for us to parent from diff houses and told that I need to go to counseling.

So conversation doesn't achieve anything...

I think in your shoes I would collect information about finances and see a solicitor about your options as a first step

Agreed 'GettingABit', but I just feel stuck in position of wanting to, but the idea of sorting it and looking at finances seems too massive

And finances...I know I should want to sort/look at, but feel so way down the list...

Anyone else stuck in this limbo land ?

Ok, it feels massive. But you don't have to do it all at once.

Assuming you are safe, you can do it one little bit at a time over the coming weeks and months if necessary until you reach the point where you realise everything is in place and you're ready to follow through.

It's a process.

Keep telling yourself that every time you feel overwhelmed by the enormity of it, then find one small step you can make. Even if it's just googling how to do the next thing on your list.

Are you safe?

Break the finances bit down into smaller tasks.

You don't have to sort everything financial all in one go. You can read the Money Advice Service website about anything you're unsure of as one step, or set up a budget spreadsheet as one (and try to fill it out as another step), you can go on entitledto to check your eligibility as another, consult a solicitor as another...

Quince, thank you. I can do that