To be annoyed with DH

[Mummyshark2019]

He's started to go out after work once a week. Starts at six and does not come home until late. Last night was 5 am. Is this normal for a man in his 40s? I don't mind him going out for a few drinks but this is another working day given the amount of hours he is there. Wtf is he doing?

So he's also opting out of family life by having to stay in bed half of Saturday.

This is not going out for a few drinks.

He's out on the piss every week.
I wouldn't accept that OP.

Let's all jump on the "bad man affair" bandwagon.

Pathetic

What sort of state is he in on return? Drinking until 5am should mean he is very drunk. If he isn't then it's coke or another woman...

If he was leaving work at say 5pm on a Friday or one week night and coming home around 10pm or so, I would say that's fine. It's one night. However, 5am?? That's extreme. I have a feeling even if it was midnight you'd feel ok but 5am is the next day!

My ex started to do this and it turned out that he was visiting gay strip clubs.

We divorced.

The next Friday he does it you get up early Saturday go out for the day with your friends and leave him with kids from early in the morning. Be vague where your going see how he likes it.

Casino?

Ooh i thought casino too, pls check your bank balances, i have a friend who’s husband started betting, not paying the mortgage etc, they lost everything

I would be seriously looking at whether he's having an affair or generally up to no good anyway. Where the hell is he at 4 in the morning? Have you checked your online banking? What's he spending on a night like that - is it in a bar, hotel, casino or is he taking out cash?

Party lifestyle
Sex
Drugs
And being a twat

My ex did this, the more I asked him not to do it (and act more like a family man), the more he went out to ‘punish me’.

Turns out he was shagging his way around our small town and using cocaine.

Could definitely be coke/strip clubs if not an actual affair with a specific other woman

I wouldn't automatically think affair. If he's just started a new job and is working with new colleagues maybe he's trying to fit in. My dh is late 30s and will come in at 5:00/6:00am when he goes out with his friends although this isn't a weekly occurrence and I wouldn't be happy if it was.

OP said it's been going on for a year. He hasn't "just" started the new job.