To ask for tips on how to get my confidence and motivation back

[whatisforteamum]

Somehow recently I've gone from a confident driven woman to being a laughing stock.
I'm mid 50s and have always had self esteem issues that I masked by working v hard.Up early home late and I loved it.No time to dwell and after years of managing on a tiny family budget the money came in handy too.
2 years ago I stopped driving due to confidence and dizzy spells.This made my world smaller.My DD who is great fun left home then my adored df died.
Still I carried on happy enough with my work.This year I got a new boss.as young almost as my dcs.Other people joined who were school leavers.
Some of my responsibilities were given to them for training purposes.I was given the menial jobs.The thing that drove me to juggle so much at work was almost removed.
I feel now like I have no purpose.DH has his own life golfing and working.
I have lost my parenting and caring responsibilities as well as some responsibilities at work.Not officially but most of my work is done by 20 somethings.
I've lost my drive and passion.My confidence is in my boots.I.went for another job which I'm sure I will get but can't be arsed.How do I find my confidence again?
I know I'm in a vicious circle as happiness breeds happiness.Also I always struggle a bit in the winter so I have a SAD lamp.

Exercise isn't the best idea.I do 55 hours a.week in a fast paced environment.on my break I briskly walk 10 mins home and 10 back so 40 a.day.Like I say I detest sport .I am more the creative type though.

Who wants to spend all their time working or doing chores ?
Suggest minimum one day where you do neither
Don't know what you enjoy, but try some of the below ?
Weekends car boot sales, craft or food fairs, theatre, museums, walks seaside, music concerts, spa, swim, sauna, bake, paint, visit family or friends, photography, somewhere new, something new

I've recently worked loads of overtime.
I'm now traveling somewhere exotic, where I've never been before. New places, new food it's exciting & there is time to relax too

Life is far too short just for work, work, work & no play !

There's so much that's good in your post - a DD who's great fun for a start - even if she's left home. - I'm assuming you still have a good relationship. Sorry to hear about your DF but you say he was adored? Another good thing as many people feel their parents aren't worthy of adoration of any kind - possibly with good cause.
So why not motivate yourself for the sake of your much adored DF ? - that way - your DF is still very much part of your life on your road to self improvement? Start with small steps - like a month to get fit or something similar and it's likely that your happiness will continue from there

Extinctinct.I work all weekends which is fine.On my days off I still can't drive and dh is at work.I don't have any RLfriends due to my job.I work with youngsters so know no one my age.
Last night my boss messaged my new rota.I have 5 long days which I did get excited about.!
Then the place I had an interview contacted me for a trial where I would get eves and every other a end off.
My dh would nt do too much with me though as he has his own hobbies and friends.d
So I could feel more lonely.I do need to get back driving....bloody meno.
Yes Charley my df hated that I worked so much.when he died I worked more.It takes away my anxiety and gives me purpose.
I can't sit around self putting which is all that happens when I get too much time off.

Ah I feel for you ! I am 46 and have hit a similar road block . I don’t know what to do either . My friend shared that at our age Rome changes are very hard as - well yeah millennials !

I share these ideas as motivations for
Me as well as you

Write a list of things you are interested in and passionate about
Focus on health health health . Eat right , exercise and look after yourself

Look at your skills . Like what specifically are you good at that boosts your confidence

Try to stay smiling at work . I have been a miserable cow all year . I have to fake it a bit

Look after yourself and seek out activities and people you like

Think about volunteering to get into a different field

Good
Luck

It’s a hard old
World and you have lost a lot in a short space of time

Ahh.Fighting thanks.I think my HRT has stolen my energy added to that I do feel a bit demotivated at work....My boss has made a real effort to upgrade my duties and include my today which is nice.
I am concentrating on my health and hair products and toiletries.to feel better.
I guess it is good to have reached 53 before I felt like this.
Normally I am the upbeat motivating one for my work.and dcs.and even.at home I'm the one up bright and breezy piling through the chores list.
Here's. Hoping I can get my mojo back soon.😊