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AIBU?

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Moving on ..

14 replies

lippy72 · 18/10/2019 19:41

Married for 15 years , ex had an affair moved out in with new woman 6 months later moved in with another woman. During this time I look after the girls at home try to piece my life back together. Fast forward 2 years now I meet someone start a new relationship and they are kicking off that I'm moving too fast !
Am I being unreasonable ???

OP posts:

Newkitchen123 · 18/10/2019 19:50

Who is kicking off?

ThreeLittleDots · 18/10/2019 19:59

Your daughters kicking off? You're not trying to foist a new man into their home are you? How old are they?

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/10/2019 20:00

How long have you been with the new person? Are they spending a lot of time in your home or moving in?

puppyconfetti · 18/10/2019 20:02

YABU to omit the detail needed to answer your question.

How long have you been seeing new man?

What do they mean by too fast?

How old are they?

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lippy72 · 18/10/2019 20:27

My ex is kicking off .... introduced the girls after a few months not moving in not spending all time there at all. Mostly see when the kids are with ex. Told ex about it in the interest of being honest as the children had heard me talk seeing each other for a few months but again in no rush to move in or for them to move in

OP posts:

puppyconfetti · 18/10/2019 20:39

Right so it's your ex that's saying it's too soon? Ignore.

justthecat · 18/10/2019 20:44

Tell your ex to mind his own business and don’t Give him any more details , he’s jealous ,a little too late to have an input

dimdarkashian · 18/10/2019 20:45

Just laugh at him

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/10/2019 20:45

Might be worth pointing out to your ex that two years is a lot better than moving on BEFORE the end of the relationship.

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lippy72 · 18/10/2019 20:46

I think I thought with us having kids I should respectfully let him know from me rather than the girls ..... needless to say I am now regretting that decision after nights of texts informing me that I am a bad mum for not putting the kids needs first and focusing just on them

OP posts:

surlycurly · 18/10/2019 20:50

You can't be reasonable with an unreasonable person. Font justify yourself. He's a knob and his opinion isn't worth the paper it's written on, even if he's the dad of the year now. Enjoy your new partner.

puppyconfetti · 18/10/2019 20:57

No OP, having kids means you both need to put them first. It doesn't mean you tell him about your personal life so he can use it against you.

AnneLovesGilbert · 18/10/2019 21:33

Tell him to piss off.

dimdarkashian · 18/10/2019 21:57

OP you did the right thing. He's a knob

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