AIBU to ask if you and your partner both have different decor tastes

[Vilanelle]

Then how do you decide how to decorate?

I have shown my DP 6 different wallpapers (I really want to get it done this weekend before new sofa arrives Wednesday) but she "isn't fussed" on any of them.

Sofa is a dark grey, walls are light grey and I was thinking of a lovely soft pink paper for feature wall.

She isn't bringing anything to the table other that a grey wallpaper. Grey sofa, grey walls, grey paper!!! Can this work with say, pink cushions to make the colours pop?

Really is a 1st world problem I know. Please help me design my living room lol

Sorry for the Netmums style LOL at the end

Im pretty easy as long as its not to outrageous, my wife wanted some curtains from laura Ashley, they cost us £500 i almost fainted. They are of course for decoration and are not aloud to be closed! And she had 2 pillows made out of the same material, and of course they cant be used as pillows, ie put your head on them

Yes. I have taste and he doesn’t

Seriously though, in general I decide what I want and gather examples (pics from the internet, paint samples etc.) and then present it to him as my option. Either he agrees completely or doesn’t; if he doesn’t we then discuss what we both like and would accept.

The biggest disagreement was that I wanted peach walls in our bedroom but he didn’t - we ended up with a pale blue that we both liked.

For your example, I’d honestly google grey rooms and feature walls and work out what you like. I would personally keep the walls plan and then go for lots of different patterns and colours in the soft furnishings and paintings/pictures on the walls. I like getting wall art from Redbubble as you can choose exactly what you want.

Pink n grey marbley or patterned paper? Kind of a middle ground.

You either pick a room each or a mid point for both of you. DP is very minimalistic.. no pictures no feck all out, it looked like he’d just got the keys to a furnished house. I like things.. not dirty mess but pictures/ornaments/cushions/plants.. a lot of plants... I’ve seriously scaled back my plants and got more neutral picture frames n pictures. And he’s gotten to terms with stuff being out, unfortunately he won’t let me have my old staircase or bathroom... ivy up the banisters .. bathroom like the amazon 😂. He said if he got a branch up his arse once more getting out of the shower he’d be reporting the palm tree 😂, it had sat in the same place in my old house for years not a sole had been victimised by it.. he just seemed to get out the shower funny.

@Bloke23 The paper I like is Laura Ashley, down from £34 per roll t0 £18. We both like that, but I can not find any furnishings that match the colour!!

@vilanelle see i quite like that wall paper, but i prefer paint only because i cant wall paper ha

If she 'isn't fussed', isn't that a signal to just do what you want? DH really doesn't care what I do as far as decor as long as it's comfortable for him to sit on or use. I'll show him things and he says similar to your DP "Whatever you want, Love" or similar. I just get on with it.

Every so often I'll show him something really off the wall, like a completely Disney-themed or chintz-and-lace living room just to see what he'll do.

You need burgundy with that. I won’t be offended if you say wtf no one ever likes what I like.

@AcrossthePond55 She is usually fussed though, I think she is exasperated because we can not settle on anything. She has just told me to go with this one. But I don't think she is fussed.

She said she wants to LOVE the paper. TBF I did choose the paper for the bedroom and she wasn't keen, but she absolutely loved it when it was up.

Oh, I see now. She's 'not fussed' because she's 'beyond caring' as it were because you can't find one you both like. That's a hard one because you end up feeling that they're just 'living with it' rather than enjoying it.

Personally, I love that wallpaper. But I do think it has a 'mauve-ish/beige-y' cast to it rather than being a 'true' pink (but maybe that's just the pic lighting). I can see how it would be hard to color match to it. I think the things in the pic you attached go well with it, but they're not in the grey family to match your couch and paint.

I think grey wallpaper would be 'too much grey' unless it had some subtle colour running through it that you could 'pick up' for pillows, etc.

Colour matching is a bitch!

My partner has always just left it to me to chose. His idea of hell is spending hours in the range/b&q/ikea where as i highly enjoy it. Works fine for us

DH and I both work in the interior decor/lifestyle/etc retail business (together!) so yes he has very strong views on every detail you could imagine and they are often different to mine. i love very classic timeless elegance - think parisian apartment or georgian townhouse - and he prefers Modern mid century minimalism (and white walls 😞 )

I’m afraid I can’t offer too much help though - the design of our home has been the subject of some of our biggest arguments! Generally one suggests something, the other HATES even the idea of it, and then months later we come round to it and compromise.

DH and I have vastly different tastes in decor. In a nutshell, I have good taste and he doesn't. Thankfully, he's not that bothered, as long as he's got somewhere comfortable to park his arse in the evening. I don't ask for his opinion any more, as he's stuck in a world of magnolia - I just crack on and do it myself.
To be fair to him, he absolutely hated my tester pot of a deep blue paint for our sitting room - but, now it's done, he concedes that it does actually look gorgeous. We've been together long enough that I think he trusts my judgement

It's lack of action that would drive me crazy.

In our house unless my DP hates it we go with my vision. The agreement is...If it's up and he hates it we can redo it but he must find and research an alternative which I also like...

Before that we just kept going until one of us didn't care enough and gave up, so the other "wins" by default

Also the paper you picked looks nice
Hers is v drab/bland.

Personally I prefer the other way round @Sushiroller

I've got a grey feature wallpaper in one of the rooms, it's an Erica Wakerly copper angles one - her stuff is quite interesting

www.wallpaperdirect.com/products/erica-wakerly/angles/137276?gclid=CjwKCAjwxaXtBRBbEiwAPqPxcGIk-TdlTYam3Du1iaObAv86_CHOjKHAfP3w-6yxu8yNNY0jk68kCRoCdwQQAvD_BwE

Yes, I have some and he doesn't

Yes, but luckily he doesn't really care so I win, every time.

Yes, but seeing as I'm the one who can actually get off my arse and do anything around the home, it's how I like it.

I've trained him over the years to appreciate my good taste. Now my taste has become his taste more of less. I'll suggest a couple of options that I like and he'll normally agree with one of them.
He feels like he's had an input but it's from a small selection.

Rather like toddler training . This t -shirt or this one?

I'd accessorise with plum and pink cushions with that colour. Different textures.

I wouldn't try to match the colour. My bedroom is a mixture of shades that are the same tone as our feature wall (so soft grey, soft green etc to match the soft purple of the wall), then spots of similar colours in brighter hues (so bright purple flowers in a smokey green vase, crimson notes in the light shade).

It all pulls together nicely without being matchy matchy.

Plus metallic tones go with anything.

Yes we do have totally different taste but he doesn't really bother lol as long as he can sit and lie comfortable I pick it he puts it up seems fair 😁😁