**BIG C TRIGGER WARNING** - to ask how long my grandad last left?

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There is nothing online so maybe people who know more about it that me can give their input...
We have just found out my Grandad (84) has advanced bowel cancer, so stage 4, we currently do not know where else it has spread to. (Live on other side of country so info given was minimal on a quick phone call).
He has severe Alzheimer’s and will not be receiving any treatment so no chemo, operations.
How long do you think he has left?

I am sorry to hear that, but really, I can't imagine anybody on the internet can advise you on this! Who in your family looks after/visits him the most? His wife, daughter, son? Surely they're in touch with the HCP who's looking after him - what do they say?

His wife (who has her own MH issues and isn’t particularly close with any of her/our family) is his main carer.
She found out yesterday and was devastated, called her daughter who then called my mum with minimal details.
I know no one really knows, bit of a desperation post really...

So sorry to hear your news.

As you said, it's impossible to say how long he has left. But I'd go and see him if I were you.

His Doctor should be able to give an indication but it would only be an estimate, it's a question that nobody could really answer for sure.

My FIL was told that he had stage 4 lung cancer at the end of October last year. His Doctor estimated he would live until February. He died six weeks later.

If you would like to visit, don't wait, go ASAP because you don't know what will happen.

Hello OP, sorry to hear your horrible news.

Nobody can say for sure how long he has left, but (and I know it sounds cruel) sooner really is better than later as both bowel cancer and advanced Alzheimer’s are terrible illnesses. When my gramps had pneumonia in the late stages of Alzheimer’s, I remember silently willing him to just go because the decline was harrowing to watch.

I know it might be difficult for some people to understand why you would want your loved one to pass away but he was suffering. So if you’re feeling like that, it’s normal and it’s okay.

Go and see your grandad and tell him you love him.

Sorry to hear this OP

Unfortunately no one will be able to tell you how long he has left, could be years, months or weeks. My Dad died roughly 5 months after chemo finished but a matter of weeks after they withdrew all treatment. Every case is different, but I wouldn’t delay going to see him.

So sorry about your news a close relative has stage 4 cancer which we have been advised his treatment didn't work and it has spread, so palliative care only now. I don't think anyone could give you much idea as this is different for all even a doctor . I would say to try and spend time where you can appreciate it whilst you are able.

My father has a dual diagnosis of dementia and advanced cancer. Nobody can predict just how long he has.

We’ve been told that if you see significant changes each month you are probably looking at months, weeks it’s weeks and days it’s days.

The ability to take food and fluids makes a lot of difference as do many other factors including the quality of care being received. Hopefully he’s been referred to a palliative care team who will help coordinate his care.

It may well take some time to get all the necessary teams to assess his needs and put care in place if he is to be cared for at home. Many people do prefer to be cared for at home but the dementia Amy preclude that anyway.

Best wishes. It’s all extremely difficult.

It is very difficult to say. My grandmother lasted less than three months but it had spread to her brain. There is a symptom checker online that gives a general idea, but the doctors and nurses will advise you better than anyone on here as every case is different