To have lost all hope of becoming a mum?

[ComeTheFuck0nBridget]

DH and I have been TTC for almost 8 years now.

We've had two rounds of clomid and I've got a third lined up but I just feel like I've lost all hope and it will never happen for me. All I've ever wanted was to be a Mum.

I have suspected PCOS and my weight has been an issue too. Finally paid for a private consultant who has given me metformin and clomid but has said I will need to lose another 1-2 stone ideally before IVF.

I know it's my own fault because of my weight but it just feels so impossible to lose it, I've lost 3.5 stone already and it's taken so long and been so difficult.

AIBU to have lost all hope that I will ever become a Mum? And if so, please can you tell me success stories of losing a lot of weight or getting pregnant over the age of 33 or after trying for a long time?

A decade ago I lost 6 stone and kept it off ever since, size 24 to a 10/12. It can be done but I changed everything I ate, all my bad habits. I cut the crap food and began cooking from scratch. Lots of veg, fish, wholegrains, healthy fats.

Sadly I don't have a successful infertility story as I have endometriosis and DH has MFI so after years of trying and medical help we've come to accept we just can't have biological children.

After accepting it we are happy though - I'm glad to be off the hellish TTC rollercoaster and there are other options on how to be a mum, (we are thinking of adoption, very early days) and life is still so rewarding and enjoyable.

I'm sure lots will post about their successful pregnancies, though. :)

I hope you get the outcome you want, best of luck

Success story here.

After 8 years, 8 IVF rounds and 5 miscarriages I had an IVF baby at 38.

Infertility is shit. Total shit. The limbo is horrendous.

Let me know if you have any questions and for you and any other poster facing the horror of infertility.

I’m sorry OP. My tale is different but hopefully it will give you some hope.

I have PCOS and I’m very fat. The doctors told me repeatedly that I’d unlikely get pregnant easily, not to wait too long etc and that I should start losing weight.

Turns out they were wrong and I got pregnant very quickly twice at 34 & 39.

The obstetricians said that the reality is some people find it easy regardless, some don’t in spite of doing everything right.

What I would say is losing weight is great for your health and will make your pregnancies much easier as I really felt awful being obese both times and I had some complications too.

The reality is it’s shit for some people but there is lots they can do to help.

Keep losing weight OP. It’s unbelievably boring I know but it will help you get there.

Have a look at very low calorie diets,Exante is one recommended by the NHS. You could probably lose that weight on a similar diet. Good luck. I am lucky enough to have one child but struggling to concieve number 2. Not saying I know how you feel at all, I know it isnt the same.