How do you feel about this?

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So I found a dress for my sisters wedding that I really love after much searching. She didn't want bridesmaids and it's not happening in a church but it's quite a posh do.

Now she texted me saying the grooms sister is going to wear a dress the same colour as me so theres a sense of theme.

Not sure why I feel a bit weird about this but I feel almost a bit "awww".

What do you think?
YABU = get over it, it's just a freaking dress colour for your sisters wedding
YANBU = yeah i kind of get where you're coming from

I felt a bit like this when I was one of two bridesmaids - we just looked like we’d both arrived in the same dress by accident rather than feeling like we were proper bridesmaids

That said, I think you’re being a bit silly and unless the colour is really out there (fluro green?!) there’s a good chance someone else at the wedding will be wearing that colour anyway

There's a rose called Amnesia which is the colour of a pigeon's neck. We call it the Corpse Rose. maybe I'll start calling it Pigeon's neck instead. Sounds more Farrow and Ball

Honestly, no-one apart from you will care what you are wearing, the focus of the day will be on the bride and groom.

the bride doesn't get to dictate what colour anyone wears

She's not. The OP has chosen the dress herself.

But whose decision was it for the grooms sister to wear the same colour dress as the op? If it was the brides decision in order to create a theme then she is dictating what colour the grooms sister wears. And if that was the case I'd change my dress so as not to engage in her nonsense of having to be part of a theme.

I kind of get what you mean. It's like she wants you to look like bridesmaids even though she's not having bridesmaids. Did your sister ask her to get a dress in the same colour?

It's odd to not want Bridesmaids then suddenly decide those in the main pic will wear same colour.... Like Bridesmaids!! Was the sister put out at not being able to be a Bridesmaid & has used this to 'kind of' look like one in the pics is my thought? I'd change the dress if you want OP, it's nice to feel your outfits unique to you at special events (& because I'd hate to look like a Bridesmaid anyway but I'm weird like that) .

🤔 Think we need to see the dress OP

I agree with both.

Yes I would feel a bit weird myself, and yes I think you just need to get over it.

Also I think your sister is making a mistake, personally. Having two people wear different dresses in the same(ish) colour isn't likely to look good. It's probably going to be a different kind of style and fabric in a slightly different shade, which will just clash and look weird. It'll be matchy, but not matchy enough. If she wants a matchy or themed look, then she should actually plan it properly and have bridesmaids with dresses that specifically go together, not try to bodge it together piecemeal at this stage.

I get where you're coming from. She didn't want bridesmaids and that's fair enough. You've spent a lot of time thinking about what to wear and it has been somewhat hijacked. Is this the groom's sister feeing that you both should be bridesmaids and trying to force it on your sister? As long as the dress isn't identical as you're not bridesmaids then it shouldn't be an issue. It might look like a bit of a fashion faux pas though. I would just go ahead and wear what I want. Don't let it bother you as it's not worth mentioning and upsetting your sister over.

I understand OP to a point. Could be worse though, could the exact same dress! Hopefully it’s not