AIBU to find this awkward?

[Anonrightnow]

My friend invited me to dinner so we could talk about our mutual interests and what was going on in our lives. I have it pretty damn rough right now, I was looking forward to a relaxing evening chatting with my friend.
I had no idea, however, that she lived with her elderly mother. She is single and hadn't mentioned living with anyone. It turns out that dinner with her meant dinner with her and her mother. Her mum is from a different country and culture and has difficulty expressing herself. Most of the conversation was her trying to tell me some story and telling my friend to translate things to me. She was nice but it felt incredibly awkward because I had assumed that it was just going to be us. Me and my friend couldn't talk freely at all because it would make her mother left out.
I didn't stay as long as I would have if it was just me and my friend and felt rude. I also am not keen to repeat the experience and might just invite her to my house in the future. AIBU?

What a non problem to have!

Yanbu.

Yeah, I'd feel the same.

However, when I started reading your post I thought you'd ended up being indoctrinated into some MLM wankery, so it could've been worse...

Agree with the PP.

Has she really never mentioned living with her elderly mother before? I'm surprised you didn't know tbh.

YABU to be put out by one evening spent with someone from a different culture, yes. You could just show a little patience and generosity.

Take it in turns so that your friend has time with you at your house, but when someone invites you for dinner just focus on how nice it is to not have to cook and then cut your friend a little slack.

I’d have found that a bit awkward too, especially the bit where I wasn’t expecting the mother to be there at all.

It maybe wouldn’t have felt so awkward if you were prepared for her mother being there?

But in your position I’d probably invite her round to mine if I wanted a relaxing evening with a friend.

WhenISnapped While she has mentioned her mum before she didn't specify that she lived with her right now and that she was going to join us, no.
Fudge My friend is from that culture too obviously, that's not the problem. The problem was me expecting to spend time freely talking to my friend.

This is an odd thread.

"Hello friend, would you like to eat food in my home where we can discuss mutual interests?"

And how good a friend is she if you didn't even know her living situation?

We first met earlier this year through a mutual hobby. So I don't know her that well. We have mostly been talking about that hobby and other interests that we share.

I’d love to have your problems.
You clearly aren’t that close if you didn’t know this. Perhaps your friend really needed some company after caring and looking after someone else.

Expectations are the mother of all disappointments.

I would love it if feeling awkward during a dinner was my only problem too summer
I will invite her to my place next time and maybe she will open up more about her life then.

This wouldn’t have bothered me in the slightest tbh.