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To be fed up of been stuck in hospital?

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mylifenow27 · 16/10/2019 07:54

For background I'm 16 weeks pregnant.

So last Thursday I started to feel really unwell and went to my gp who called an ambulance and I was blue lighted in. I was in Resus for hours they did act scan and tests etc to rule out a collapse lung and a blood clot. All negative. They put me on antibiotics, fluids steroids and blood thinners.

It's now come back I have a rival infection called rhino virus. As it's viral they have decided to take me off the antibiotics and see how I go. They keep trying to reduce my fluids and it's constantly one step forward and two back.

Now I had this same virus when I was pregnant with my daughter I went down hill very quickly and I ended up really poorly with pneumonia and this resulted in my little girl having Cerebral Palsy as my body and her in my womb were starved of oxygen as my levels were so low. To add I had been sent away from A and E being told it's viral your fine, you can't breath as baby's taking space in your lungs. No one listened to me until I nearly died and ended up in intensive care.

Things aren't as bad this time but I still feel very unwell but as my stats come back normal when checked I feel like my concerns are being ignored I keep going very dizzy and sick and having hot flushes (I know these are common for a virus) but I'm still worried and feel awful. The doctors are refusing to do anything until I get worse or get better so I feel like I'm just a sitting duck each day.

Am I being unreasonable to feel a bit worried about been taken of antibiotics and like I'm not listened too? By the time someone comes to check my stats when I ring the buzzer as I feel unwell they have gone back to normal. But as soon as paracetamol, the other anti sickness meds and the piriton wear off I go straight down hill in my self. But the doctors keep just saying my bloods look better.

Sorry for the essay! I think I'm becoming a little fed up as I've been here a week tomorrow, I've missed my sons birthday, the children can't visit me and because I'm in a isolation room the healthcares keep forgetting to check on me if I need water they have fog my meals on 3 different occasions. I can't get out of bed as I'm too dizzy so my sheets haven't been changed since Saturday.

I think I might actually cry. But if I get upset the doctors then try to say it's Anxiety. Which isn't not I have had 3 other perfectly healthy babies and I no how rare it is to get so unwell that a child is left with cp.

I'm currently writing this with one eye open as I'm exhausted 😩

OP posts:
TheoriginalLEM · 16/10/2019 08:03

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.

In fairness, if you have a virus then antibiotics will do precisely nothing and giving them to you unecessarily leaves you vulnerable to antibiotic resistant bacteria. That would leave you with an infection that can't be treated.

They are treating you and monitoring you so it sounds like you are in safe hands.

Saying that, i kniw how shit it can be in hospital and you do feel ignored.

Is there anyone who can act as an advocate for you? It is not ok that they forget your meals, sadly this doesn't surprise me.

richteasandcheese · 16/10/2019 08:15

Do you have a buzzer? Buzz for your meals. Buzz for help. They can change the sheets with you in the bed if you can't get up. Speak up for yourself and don't let them treat you poorly

mylifenow27 · 16/10/2019 08:15

Yes my husband has been advocating for me, but unfortunately as we run our own business he can't currently take time off to sit with me all day as we need to earn money. Plus she's juggling the 4 other children we have at home who are only aged 7, 4, 3 and 5 months. I think I'm just a bit lonely and I don't like to nag as I know how busy and over worked everyone is.

I did however ask for my sheets to be changed first time since Saturday so it's nice to be in a clean bed.

The health cares and nursery's are really lovely which helps it's just the sitting and waiting to see if I get worse or better which is really hard x

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RainbowsAndGlitterAndUnicorns · 16/10/2019 15:27

No advice but sending you a handhold. Do you need to be in isolation? If not can you ask to be in a ward so you're not as lonely & not forgotten about?

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