AIBU or is neighbour insane ?

[cnutnugget]

I'll try and condense as much as possible!
Lived next to neighbour for several years. She is very angry at the world and has a problem with everything. She'll report people to the council for how they park and many other things and is generally not well liked. I make an effort with her as I want to live in peace and dont want to get on her bad side frankly. Since we've lived next to her we have had to put up with a lot of noise. Constant arguing, drunken antics all the time, running up the stairs like fucking hippos. She is very inconsiderate but I put up cos it's not the end of the world. Last week at 1am on a weeknight she was drunk and screaming and shouting. I was fed up and had to get up at 6am for work. I text her something to the effect of please would you shut your fucking mouth. I totally understand how this may have been taken. She replied ar 5am (clearly wasted) about how I'm taking the fuckig piss and I have a problem with her and how dare I speak to her like that and that she can hear my tv. I replied and apologised that I offended her, explained that that is how I talk and meant no offensive but outlined why her behaviour was unreasonable and that I am happy to put up with her noise (including her very loud tv all the time) she then replied with some more abuse about how i should just fucking move and then demanded i never speak to her again.
I get why she may have been upset by what i said, i apologised and tried systematically to be diplomatic and resolve it and give her a way out even though (imo) she was being insane.
AIBU?

If she’s a serial complainer to the council , she won’t be taken seriously. Ignore her - pretend she doesn’t even exist.
Were you being unreasonable- no, you were pushed way to far and you let her know by text. No murders were committed.

Are you ctnutnugget or broccolilover1?

Either way, you both sound awful! Especially if "that's just the way you talk". I do swear, but I'm quite able to NOT type it in a text message! How is she supposed to know that you didn't mean to offend?

you sound fucking insane

”Shut your fucking mouth”
Texting that was unlikely to garner a positive response from anyone let alone someone you’re accusing of anti social and unneighbourly behaviour.

Also “insane”? How offensive can you get? Are you privy to her medical records?

Brilliant! Fight fire with fire I say, none if this pussyfooting about and being scared of confrontation which is what you usually get from wimpy MN users

You both sound like something from Jeremy Kyle tbh

Move to a house with thicker walls.

Not your finest hour, OP, and now that you've enraged her I suggest you prepare for a war of attrition, which will most probably be a relief to your other neighbours as her full attention will be turned to you,

YANBU, OP, but I think you'll be slated here!

Personally, I don’t think “shut your fucking mouth” would have been my opening gambit tbh...

I just apologised for the way she had taken it but stood firmly by my point

Please shut your fucking mouth.

Nah, it’s not about the way she’s “taking it”?

Do you usually get much traction with this approach?

Oops! You messed with a drunken neighbour who is known for her "wars" with others! I hope she won't give you a run for your money from now. Next they could start running up the stairs like a herd of wilderbeasts alongside fucking hippos, etc.

If you want peace, you might have to do more face to face begging. Otherwise, ignore and await hell from her or report to council.

Don’t have anything to do with her - just get on with your lufe

running up the stairs like fucking hippos

Trying to picture hippos running up stairs.

Still trying.

She’s taken “shut your fucking mouth” The wrong way?
Seems pretty straight forward to me

I text her something to the effect of please would you shut your fucking mouth.

Classy, OP. I couldn't be bothered to read any more of your post after this. Even in anger do you really think this is the right way to speak to people? You are as bad as each other and I'm so glad neither of you are my neighbour. Has it occurred to you that you're probably clashing because you're very similar?

Well done OP! You stood up for yourself and your right to not have to listen to a drunken bint balling out of herself at 1am on a weeknight.

Print that text out and look upon it fondly in the future and whenever anyone else acts like a selfish c**t and remember you have it in yourself to tell someone to shut the fuck up!

I'm actually really proud of you, really proud!

I replied and apologised that I offended her, explained that that is how I talk and meant no offensive

I think if that's how you talk, you might want to re-think your interpersonal communication skills. You know she's a loud obnoxious hippo, don't fan the flames! That being said, she needs to get her shit together. Does she rent? Can you notify her landlord?

If someone messaged me what you messaged her then I'd be as noisy as fucking possible for the next few days. Yes, I am that petty.

I wish I had the courage to speak to my noisy neighbour like that.

I’d move if I lived next door to either of you to be honest.