AIBU To think that if you're in a relationship with someone....

[chuttypicks]

but only see each other a couple of times a week, and don't live together, then they are NOT YOUR "DP"??!!

Surely a DP is someone that you live with and are effectively in a 'life partnership' with? I keep seeing posts where people have been seeing someone for just a few months, only see them once or twice a week, and refer to them as their DP.

Is there not another way to describe that person? Maybe BF or GF? Or something else?? I'm not sure why, but it really gets my goat!! AIBU?

I worked with someone who had a lover - her live-in boyfriend/ partner or whatever, but she always called him her lover. About fifteen years later and it still creeps me out.

I referred to the person I've started seeing as a gentleman friend, a bit old for boyfriend! He (or someone else) will only become a partner if we merge our lives together,

Why would it bother you?

It wouldn't bother me, but if someone posts asking for advice and refers to their DH, it makes a difference to how a situation is viewed.

I worked somewhere once with a woman who referred to her 'L - I - L'.

As in, 'live in lover'.

Not sure it really caught on.

Every time I read “DP” I think “double penetration” anyway, so I don’t really care who uses it (and will continue to take an extra 0.5 second to type out “partner” myself)

If you are not one of the people in the relationship you mention then you have absolutely no right to question how they define their relationship.

Does it matter?

I realise that it really doesn't matter, and I'm not quite sure why it gets my goat, but it just does! Glad to know I'm the only one this bothers though! Thanks!