If I let him move in

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Name changed as I don't want this thread to follow me around.

Ex has just broken up with his girlfriend and he is going to move out and has asked a few of his friends if he can stay with them. And they have said no. He hasn't asked me but we are on good terms so I'm thinking of asking him

What should I do?

Stop making this your problem. He's a grown man.

I think he would pay me as he said he would've paid his friends. I don't know why his friends said no

What on earth do you mean you “think” he’d pay you?! It’s your fucking house, you make the rules, not him. I’m worried you might have doormat tendencies (don’t mean to offend but can’t think of a nice way to put it!) which means there’s a high chance of you being used and unappreciated in this situation.

No I wouldnt go there.

I think it's probably taking a big risk with your friendship given your history.

If you say yes, I'd be inclined to make it for a fixed length of time. "I can help you out for 2 months to give you time to find yourself a new rental/house share" and hold him to it.

I had an ex as a flatmate. Worked out really well as we were very domestically compatable. Just as long as neither of you have and residual feelings - inevitably one of you will bring a romantic partner home.

So he's been dripping hints to stay. Say no. If he can't ask you outright and hasn't got anywhere else to go, I'd say things aren't necessarily above board.

Don't be daft, OP. If even his own friends don't want him living with them, why should you?

What the hell have I just read.

Avoid this one like the plague

*What should I do?’

Don’t offer for him to stay and say no if he asks.

Depends.

Was he a good partner in terms of tidiness, cooking, cleaning etc when you lived together before?

Did he pay his way fairly and promptly when you lived together?

Are you without a SO in your life at the moment and not looking?

Is he in regular employment?

Does he have a clean record re drugs, violence, alcohol abuse etc?

Is he pet-free?

Do you have at least two bedrooms with doors, one currently unoccupied?

Are you confident you are not susceptible?

If all your answers are yes, it might work!