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A comment has been made by a friend and I guess I feel a bit put out by it?

So details are my DC has had to have glasses to strengthen eyesight. I've been nervous putting them on DC around people, but DC loves them. Yesterday I just sucked it up and did it, went fine everyone loved them.

I took them off for a period and friend was discussing her DC and made a comment that some "four eyed git was picking on their DC at school". I ignored it but it hurt at the time because I thought we were passed all that with glasses wearing (seen so many postive posts on here with children wearing them and kids not batting an eye at it), friend is not the sort of person who says that stuff and works with kids too.

I know I'm over sensitive right now (hormones), I know that much but was this kinda shitty? I was just so nervous for comments like this surrounding glasses wearing but not off an adult about another child.

Maybe I just need to harden myself up for DC when it eventually happens, but I think what put me out was it was a close friend commenting on a little child wearing glasses.

wouldn’t worry my friend always makes horrible comments about fat people and I’m fat. I try not to take it personally

Eh? Why on earth would you do this rather than speak to your so called friend?

Because she wouldn’t care and I’m not gonna fall out over it.

If she had said a MALE or a FEMALE brat was picking on her child would you have immediately felt it was an issue because your child is also male or female

Hardly. “Male” and “Female” are not insults or negative; it’s more than reasonable to describe someone as Male! “Four eyed git”, on the other hand is insulting both the child in question, and glasses wearers generally. Theres no justification.

Then again, OP is pretty negative about glasses too, it seems.

Sorry, cross posted with PP above.

@DisappointingBanana

Where have I said that? I bloody wear them myself, I'm not negative about it, I'm protective about my DC and I thought it was a shit thing to say. If I had posted about hair colour would I have been presumed negative about that too?

It was the building up to it and sucking it up comments about wearing the glasses that seemed negative; you said your DC loves their glasses, so the sucking it up was all yours, not theirs.

Apologies if I misunderstood your position.

I always compliment little kids with their glasses and offer to swap them for my boring old ones. 😉

My sister had beer bottles when she was a kid and was called all sorts (she was a hell of a fighter though so it wouldn’t happen twice).

@DisappointingBanana DC is a toddler so building up in use of glasses (been from 20 mins wear, to half a day and then a whole day) but won't wear them a whole day yet so we do baby steps at their pace so not to push them.

Sucking it up, in a way I mean if someone happened to say something (DC wouldn't understand anyway) but it would hurt me. Everyone's been really positive and lovely though when they see them. I just have a tendancy to worry.

It’s OK, OP, I clearly misunderstood. Your explanation makes perfect sense. 🙂