To be raging they have said this to DS

[hangryandhormonal]

I have a DS with ex partner - regular contact, we are mostly amicable. Each year I meet with ex partner's girlfriend (most communication is through her, don't ask me why!) and we sort Christmas. We have alternated Christmas Eve for the past few years. We've not sorted this Christmas yet. This year DS should be at home with me as he stayed with Dad last year.

DS is 4, he came bounding in from his dads asking if he could stay with them at Christmas "please say yes" I asked why he was asking that and he said he was told to ask by the girlfriend.

AIBU or is that really , really manipulative? I'm furious that they have put me on the spot like that - DS is only 4 but he doesn't forget a bloody thing and I know he will mention it again. I purposely haven't mentioned any Christmas plans so as not to get him excited until we'd agreed where he would be and when.

Girlfriend denied it was her and said it was ex partner and a relative, I apologised for going through her to vent my frustration but she is my only line of contact - she then got defensive so I just said lets discuss when we meet to talk through the plans.

[MyDcAreMarvel]

Surely he gets two christmases anyway doesn’t he?
Why on earth would he? It’s just one day.

[hangryandhormonal]

@mydcaremarvel yep just one day split between the two houses alternating Xmas eve

[MyDcAreMarvel]

That makes sense op.

[fallfallfall]

But he gets to open presents at each house, eat different foods etc at both places hence two christmases.