I feel like I just don’t have any fun anymore - anyone else?

[Notcontent]

I don’t mean this to be a “feeling sorry for myself” thread and not really looking for advice, but just wondered if anyone else can relate to this.

Objectively I am quite fortunate in that I have a house, enough money to pay the bills/have a holiday, I have a dd, a job. BUT I am mid 40s, have been a lone parent for a very long time, and I feel like there is very little fun in my life. Probably none actually... i have very little time as I juggle a demanding job with being 99% responsible for my dd. I can’t remember the last time I felt completely carefree and had fun. It’s not all doom and gloom but life feels like a treadmill without any fun bits. I also feel a bit invisible - like no one really cares about me.

Hi @Notcontent. I was saving your post to respond to when I had a day off.

I am also a lone parent, and feel the same way. I do nothing for fun. I can't leave my son on evenings as he's too young to be left alone. I miss adult company and conversation. I also feel invisible. Friends are usually busy with their own families, my family live further away.

Just wanted to let you, you're definitely not alone in feeling like this.

I’m feeling the same and like you I’m not looking for pity but just because everyone else seems to moving on having fun and I’m a newly single parent feeling a bit lost in the world xx

Same, OP. I have two children, currently on mat leave. Husband is great but we never get any time to be us instead of parents. I just feel so dull and lonely. Can't remember when I really last had fun. I have a good life, but the overwhelming feeling of being lonely and stuck in a rut is hard to shake.

I'm a widowed parent. How old is your dd? My fun is meeting female friends, but also my teenage girls are full of life and funny/fun. Other than that i can relate.

PS. If i was still at the hard slog stage with kids id feel the same

It's not easy, is it.

Could you plan to do something just for you, to which you could then look forward. I really need to have things to look forward to. Simple things a walk, ideally meet up with friends.

OP, I totally understand and get where you're coming from. I'm same age as you and a single parent to two dc who rarely see their dad, very demanding full time job, house falling to bits, very little in the way of family locally and feel quite lonely at times.