To have snapped at DH

[sailorcherries]

So DH and I are flying out today for a belated city break honeymoon, bought by my sister as a wedding present.

DH isn't keen on flying (although has flown countless times before including long haul with an ex) but agreed. 6 months ago I told him that if he was worried he could take the train/ferry and I'd meet him. I don't like flying but fear the Eurotunnel/ferries more and had no issues. 6 months ago he told me he would go to the gp and see if they could help.

Long story short he has done nothing. I have sorted everything for the trip, sorted travel cards, dinner reservations, activities, bought essentials and packed.

This morning after him not packing, huffing about and complaining I snapped. I told him I knew he didn't like it but he has done nothing to help, himself or the trip, and I feel quite upset by it.

We're at the airport and he's spoke less than 50 words to me. Is still complaining. Making himself feel worse etc and is telling me I'm not sensitive enough and don't care.

I do care. I gave him 6 months of options, even to the point where I said I'd go alone of it was too much, looked at train and ferry tickets for him to do nothing.

Aibu in being upset with his behaviour? The whole morning, so far, has been ruined but apparently I'm the bitch for complaining when he doesn't like it.

I've told him I'm not doing this again.

Aibu for not mothering him and pandering to him or ainbu given he hasn't done anything to help despite plenty of encouragement and discussion prior?

YANBU at all, like you said he's had 6 months. A lot of people have anxieties about things, including myself but some people just never help themselves and it's frustrating. I would have dealt with it exactly the same as you. I just hope once you get there you enjoy your holiday!

So long as you didn’t snap and fart you’re fine.

What did you do to overcome your fear of the Eurotunnel/ferry so you could both travel that way?

I'm not saying you necessarily should have done but at least he's been prepared to take the flight with you, which is more than you were prepared to do with Eurotunnel/ferry. So i don't think you're really in a position to complain

Deathstare someone else bought the holiday for us, the flights included. Eurotunnel and ferry was too expensive for them and I wasn't complaining.

So long as you didn’t snap and fart you’re fine

It wasn't funny the first time around.

OP, tell him to stfu or go home. You don't want to hear another whinge.

So long as you didn’t snap and fart you’re fine

The gag that refuses to die.

I thought it had. It needs to sharpish

He’s nervous. I feel the same when flying. But him a couple of large gins and he will be fine and perk right up!

I hear you. I would be pretty irritated with him too.

I am not keen on flying, but I make myself get on with it when I need to get from A to Be quickly in order to enjoy a trip of some kind.

I think he is being an arse, and an ungrateful one too.

I do second the g & t for the flight though. It has the desired effect on me anyway.

We got here and he's perked up. Gonna just spike him on the way home 😂😂

Snapped and farted is cringeworthy. As bad as cancel the cheque.

Glad you’ve arrived OP! Have a great honeymoon ❤️

My Ds suffers with anxiety it is really hard not to take it personally. He is an adult though and could of done something to help .

Hope you aren’t seated together on the way back