Will try not to drip-feed & NC in case I’m outed.
It was a ‘large’ birthday for me at the weekend, I had hired a venue with a DJ, and invited a lot of people & their families. My family were there including children (teens and DS 5).
My ‘best’ friend also came with her 2 DD’s (12 & 15). BF is recently divorced, and going through a tough time (may be relevant?)
Anyhow. I had arranged for my EXH to collect DS 5 from the party at 10pm (knowing he would be shattered at this point). We have a great co-parenting relationship. He arrived. As he was walking over to me, BF (who had consumed way too much alcohol) threw herself at him and kissed him. EXH almost fell over and managed to free himself from her grip and pick up DS. As he was walking out, BF then stopped him again to put sweets down his trousers and in his pockets (she had stolen all of the sweets from kids table I had set out). EXH had DS in his arms and repeatedly kept telling her to stop. Eventually she did and he left.
Later on in the evening BF was incredibly rude to my cousin, and he told her that what she did was out of order. She then proceeded to slap him and deny doing anything to EXH. At which point she called her children out of the party and stormed out. I tried asking her to stay, but she left anyway. Her eldest child re-appeared 5 mins later, and said she was sorry, her mum is very drunk and unreasonable and she doesn’t know what to do. I told her to take her home and she will be ok in the morning. Her daughter then said that BF said she is not going to message me tomorrow, and if I want to talk to her and apologise I can message her.
BF does have a problem with alcohol. She likes to binge drink, to the point where she has no recollection of events. That evening she was incredibly drunk, loud, rude and aggressive. She was throwing herself at everyone and generally made a lot of people feel uncomfortable.
How on earth do I handle this? Should I contact her? If so, what do I say? I’ve never been in a situation like this…..