AIBU to be annoyed with DP standing in front of me doing makeup

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I was just trying to put on my makeup at the kitchen table and he was standing on front of me looking at me almost manager style which made me feel observed.

He then started talking to me so I said "I'll talk to you when I have finished doing my makeup" which then caused him to start a big debate about why I couldn't talk to him as I was doing my makeup because he needed to go to work.

AIBU to find it annoying when people are near you when you're doing your makeup?

I hadn't noticed until now how ridiculous is the phrase "doing my make up"

Haha take it you don't have children then OP. Wait until you have a 3 year old "helping"

I'd probably poke the mascara in my eye if I tried talking at the same time,

I don't wear make-up but I had no idea putting it on was some kind of protected time. Wish everyone felt like that and didn't do it on the train!

I wouldn't not talk to DH because he was shaving or something which I think is equivalent.

Depends what he wanted to talk to you about. If it was just general chit-chat, then I can see why you are annoyed. But if it was something more substantial I think you were being a bit precious.

So Your dp sits on the coffee table to play his plantation and You sit at the kitchen table to do your make up? okay

*playstation.

The staring would bother me, but maybe he was just standing waiting for you to finish your make up because he had something to say but knew you can’t manage to put your face on and converse at the same time.

Sounds like you and your DP don't get on very well!

I can't bear people hovering.

IMO a lot of people forget that 'gaining the attention of the person you wish to speak to' is an essential element of communication. Hovering, talking at people, failing to pay attention to what they are doing and whether their attention is available, is poor communication.

So, if you weren't in a mad rush too, I think he needed to say 'can I speak to you quickly?', you stop what you were doing to listen, then him leaving.

It would annoy me somewhat if my dh was demanding that what he wanted was more important than anything I might already be doing and that I had to stop and give him some attention, but on the other hand, you could still have a conversation and put your make-up on at the same time. Multi-tasking and all that

Christ if you hate your partner so much break up with him. I think you might have a genuine anger problem?

Did he bring you something nice for your tea after your angry nachos?

@lottiegarbanzo That's exactly it! Hovering! But why is hovering so annoying exactly?

@JasonPollack I dont hate him. I love him. I think I just am intolerant. And btw I was going to do the camembert if you're interested, but when he got home we decided we weren't actually all that hungry si we ate cereals in bed!

Yes it bothers me when anyone stands in front of doing my make up especially if they're blocking the light, can also be distracting.

Have you always been this angry? Anger can be a symptom of depression. I get awful uncontrollable rage when I am down in myself. It scares me honestly.

Hovering is annoying because it is an interruption, pretending not to be an interruption.

It's very distracting, so prevents the person being 'hovered over' from concentrating on finishing what they're doing. Which (as I often remind members of my family) makes finishing that task, so becoming available to talk to them, take longer!

That's why, if it's urgent, a quick 'do you have a moment?', 'could I interrupt you for a second?' is preferable.

So he wasn't just standing there staring at you at first then? Because I thought wtf,there must be some missing details there, why would he just stand there staring?

So its just the close proximity that bothered you, not that he did anything wrong really?

There was a time when people could resolve minor boring grievances with their significant others without taking to mn about it

I’m pretty sure anyway

@MadameButterface Yes, well, there was a time people would have engaged in light embroidery or casual birdwatching rather than trawl a website voyeuring into other peoples lives but luckily for you those times are gone

Your update contradicts your first post. You initially said he was standing in front of you staring at you and trying to talk to to you. Your update says he was actually looking out of the window singing... so neither staring at you nor trying to talk to you!! Poor bloke.

If you were hoping to recreate the hilarity of the nacho post op you should have perhaps left it a couple of days, perhaps people are still tired from wiling their eyes with mirth

Then there’s that rule about sequels and diminishing box office returns etc

Oh come off it gwacky you know you wouldn't do "light embroidery" you'd do angry "Fuck you and the nacho you sailed in on" embroidery.

Oh dear! Is this the same poster from nachos post?! Oh fook me! Poor hubby can't fooking catch a break! Now he annoys you just by standing beside you, looking out the window,stretching and singing which shows he is in a good mood?
You, dear lady, are clearly unhappy within!

LTB!

Although I am talking to your DH now, not you!