AIBU to not want to do the deed @ 35 weeks pregnant?

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OH just had a go at me because of lack of sex during this pregnancy. Ive been sick and tired through most of it and really haven't been up to it, but did try to do it every 2-3 weeks. The last month Ive just not been in the mood - shall i give in for his sake? i know he must be frustrated. AIBU for saying no untill after baby is born and im back to normal?

OP mine is exactly the same and throughout this pregnancy I've had infections, I'm now 37 weeks and I'm high risk pregnancy :/ he's used some horrible phrases when I say no. His favourite response is "you've got a mouth" which is degrading, there was a comment he made when I was just over 12 weeks when he'd said "don't blame me when I start looking at other women". We've not done it since then and I have no intention on doing so because he will learn to respect a woman and not try force me to do things I don't want and simply won't do..

I've thought about giving in but it's not worth the feeling crap about it afterwards, if he can't respect you or your body and the fact you're carrying his baby then he's a jackass that don't deserve you.

useless how can you bear to even be in the same room as him? your husband is vile.

YANBU at any time, ever. Don't even have to be heavily pregnant, uncomfortable and feeling unsexy. If you don't want it, you don't have to do it.

@JoxerGoesToStuttgart he was on the sofa for days after this and I don't engage in any conversation when it comes to that anymore, he's had to learn the hard way

Are both his hands in plaster?

Ltb

No you're not being unreasonable. He has no idea how uncomfortable it feels at this stage, and how you might mentally not want to either. Bear in mind, he'll probably be looking for it the minute baby is born, but it will be at least 6 weeks if not more like 12 weeks before you'll feel up to it

I would leave him. Im not even over exaggerating.

@uselessemployers your OH sounds completely vile. He won't learn to respect women. Please consider leaving

Aw poor little guy not getting sex....urgh he can take matters into his own hangs literally. It’s. It’s not like any man doesn’t know how to wank ffs!

@uselessemployers yes you have a mouth and it’s filled with teeth just remind him of that!

he's had to learn the hard way

Nah, pricks like that just get it elsewhere. He’s not learning anything. Nor are you by the sounds of things.

My ex was like that.

He'll get it elsewhere.

Total utter cunt.

DH never ever pressurised. I didn't DTD for months after DC3. Too ill. No pressure. He has a hand, he can wank.

Bloody pathetic men who think women are just a hole to fuck.

@Likethebattle I wouldn't even entertain the idea of it going near my mouth 😂 I like my teeth to much

@JoxerGoesToStuttgart if he's dumb enough to get it elsewhere then I welcome him to do so :) so far he's stuck up my ass 24/7 as he's off work sick at the minute, has been for months

If sex was that important to him he should have thought twice about getting you pregnant. Nothing kills a sex drive like a child. No sex in pregnancy and likely no sex after the baby comes either!

Too late now!!

Ask him if you can try sticking uncomfortable things up his bum. Have a go at him when he says no.

Ask him if he'd like you to stick things down the eye of his penis. www.lovehoney.co.uk/bondage/cock-ball-toys/urethral-sounds/ I imagine it's a very intense sensation. Apparently, you can also reach the prostate gland that way.

Strangely, the idea doesn't seem to appeal to most men :)

If he doesn't want you to do it, tell him he's repressed and frigid.

He's grim.