to get really riled by SIL's constant religious references?

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My 2 brothers and I were raised very churchy and 1 brother has gone on to be a pastor. I no longer go to church and everyone's fine about it. Except SIL. I get the feeling she's always trying to get me to come back to churchiness.

Most of the time it's fine, no one says anything, but then she slips little things in like "Ooh SIL you had nice weather for your holiday", "Yes, we thanked God for that". Or the badge she has on her bag, "Smile, Jesus loves you". It just makes me want to rip her face off!

I suppose they don't sound too bad one at a time, but it's all the time.

So, AIBU?

(Sorry for the name change but you just never know!)

The stuff you describe here doesn't suggest she is trying to convert you but I can understand that if that is the way she speaks all the time it would be annoying.

Would it freak you out further to know that she's probably praying for you to come back to church too?

And I am a churchgoer

My BIL went through a phase of this, btw - we're all Christians, but he is the very OTT laying-on-of-hands charismatic, and he was a wee bit scary. It was a phase because his housegroup were praying for us, and he's out the other side now..

She may not be doing it to rile you deliberately, perhaps it's just how she speaks.

It does sound rather wearing though.

But please don't rip her face off!

My grandmother refers to me as a heathen because I don't frequent church very often.
She claims she's only joking.

I think you're being a bit unreasonable in wanting to rip SIL's face off, but I can imagine that the comments would get rather grating.

Tune her out.

Or sacrifice a chicken on the front lawn!

Ripping off her face would be excessive, but you know, Jesus would still forgive you

(am atheist really)

I say Please God or Thank God, or God willing all the time.

It does sound a bit twee talking like that but just try to shrug it off. My family are quite churchy and I find it embarrassing when they talk about 'our Lord Jesus' or whatever but I've learnt to accept it.

lol Kathy

Come to think of it, my vile SIL is anti-religion. I may up the usage in her presence and make sure I wear my cross and chain.

LGJ walks off cackling.....[girn]

The OP isn't your vile SIL, is it, LGJ?

My SIL informed me that me, dh & the kids were going to hell as we aren't church goers.

LGJ runs off to check....>>>>>>>>

Nah, she seems to normal.....

She sounds reeeally easy to wind up. I'd be so tempted....

"Ooh SIL you had nice weather for your holiday", "Yes, we thanked God for that"
"No, you should have thanked me, I did a spell and sacrificed two chicken to ensure you did...had to do two dances by the moonlight dressed only in chicken blood, and it was pretty nippy that night too"

I don't know...YABU, I think.

I have a new friend who is a devout Muslim. She sprinkles her language with "Inshallah", "Alhamdallah", and several other phrases, as well as frequently refering to her outlook on things from a religious perspective. Her religion is very personal and alive to her, so I can understand why she speaks this way. But it sometimes affects the flow of conversation - to me, anyway - and a little part of me occasionally wonders why she's saying this to me when she know that I'm not Muslim and would never become one.

Yet if I step back from it, I realise that it's how many of my mum's family speak, but in a different language and religion. Because I've grown up with it I don't notice this verbal 'tic' in them, but accept it the way I accept my brother's tendency to say "emmm" while he searches for a word. I only notice my friend's verbal mannerism because it is very new to me. I have to remind myself that it's nothing to do with me, it his her way of speaking. I wonder what verbal tics I have, that I no doubt am completely unaware of!

if she's not trying to convert you or your family, its probably best to just ignore it as best you can. it can be a bit much, but she's proud of her religion.

i'd say you're being a bit unreasonable, but horribly unreasonable. if it makes you so uncomfortable, maybe you or oyur partner can have a chat with her? (i know its a very touchy thing for some people.....)

Justincase, this is bog standard stuff in muslim countries. drives my ex loopy in his country, as he isnt muslim.

I would love to wind her up like that ib, but I know she'd cry (then pray for me!) so I never would, it's just so infuriating sometimes!

I used to work with at girl like this and really struggled with it, I have to say if I speak to anyone now & they drop God, Jesus or the bible into the conversation I run like hell thinking "nutter".

I am an aetheist and cant see any reason to believe in any of these things any more than aliens or faries. I dont have a problem with other people believing in them - just dont share it with me LOL

Does she show a sense of humour - can you have a gentle joke with her or does she take everything to heart? If the latter, I can see why you're irritated, but YABU
to want to rip her face off!

PrettyCankles, that's a really good way of putting it. I mean, I'd offer to pray for someone, or tell them I would, because to me, that's an expression of concern for them. I wouldn't do it deliberately to make them ill at ease, it's often just as you say, because my faith is 'alive' to me so it's just part of the day-to-day.

prettycandles.. sorry

I understand exactly where you are coming from and don't think you are being unreasonable at all. I find the whole religion thing a bit difficult to understand. My Aunt can't wait to die as she says it'll all be better on the other side - this life is something we just have to suffer.
She also believes my entire family (including my 2yr old and 5month old) are going to hell as we are non believers and haven't been baptised. Very odd lady!