Aisle Seat

[TheMonkeyWhale]

AIBU to think you don’t insist on having the aisle seat on transport just to then “fake” sleep and have a huff every time someone sitting besides you needs to get out?

Thanks everyone! I realise I should have explained to them that I really needed that seat. I’m newly diagnosed so new to the need to be assertive about it all.

I have asked if I can have the seat back explaining that I was worried I was disturbing them too often. They’ve said no so it’s their issue now.

Just say to him "I have to get up often, if it's inconvenient for you let's just swap back"

Is it a long flight?

You've done all that you can to be reasonable then.

I don't mind people taking the aisle seat providing they are prepared to move over when the bus/train starts to fill up or move their bags off the other seat and indicate to those standing to take the other seat. What I do mind is when they place their bags on the inner seat and basically act as though it is occupied. Ok you have a lot of bags but why should someone else have to stand because of this. I always ask if the seat is occupied and ask them to either remove their bags or move over. Only once did someone do this with a deep sigh as though they were entitled to two seats but a lot of people do try it on by trying to look oblivious to other people standing.

I’m newly diagnosed

for you, OP. Sounds like you're going through a lot.

Next time you have to get up - find a stewardess - explain the problem and ask if there are any other aisle seats available or other options you could use for the flight.

I have asked if I can have the seat back explaining that I was worried I was disturbing them too often. They’ve said no so it’s their issue now

Damn right it is. Have no hesitation in tapping them on the shoulder to wake them up each time you need to move.

In future, don't let anyone encourage you out of your seat. You don't have to explain your reasons, just decline with a smile "no, I'd rather stay in this seat thank you".

What I do mind is when they place their bags on the inner seat and basically act as though it is occupied.

There is a circle of hell reserved for people who do this on busy trains.

OP, let them huff. You’ve been far more than reasonable and their stroppiness is not your problem.

Just keep waking them when you need to go. Next time, I'd refuse and explain why but when just diagnosed it can be hard to get your head around it.

I think if I were going on a longer flight than a few hours, I'd probably stop drinking 24 hours before takeoff to ensure I didn't need the bathroom whilst on there

That's just what you need on a long flight... thickened blood due to dehydration. The extra DVT risk adds a certain element of jeapordy that'll keep you entertained.

I think the not drinking for 24 hours is the worst idea ever! I’ve been told to drink a lot to try and halt the recurrent infections that come with MS.

Am I the only one who books a window seat because I like looking out, does everyone else order the aisle? Started when I was a child, DB and I would get a turn each (one there one back) at the window seat. Sometimes if it was rows of 3 my parents would book two pairs one in front of the other and we'd both get window seats and DPs would have middle seats, because they could see over us out of the window and they're both pretty small, so legroom was never an issue.

I prefer the window seat but DH does too. He also has a long range bladder. He can do a 13-14 hour long haul flight without getting out of his seat. He's done it more once. I'm up and down like a yo-yo.

He has sat in the aisle seat occasionally but gets totally fed up with people tripping over his feet.

I always book the aisle seat on planes. I have had people telling me that they 'needed' the aisle seat and I could have their window or middle seat (on one memorable flight, I had both the window and middle passengers, travelling separately telling me this!) They were soon disabused of this notion.

it's never unreasonable to ask, but neither it is to politely decline.

I always book the aisle seat and won't travel unless I know I've booked and guaranteed this. Claustrophobia is the main reason but also I go to the loo frequently.

I'd always get up for others if they ask thou as that's just the occupational hazard of sitting there.

I really think he should swap back though as it was your seat to start with and you need it. I would probably alert a steward(ess) to let them know your predicament. V unreasonable of him.