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To have called it quits?

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Finallygotthere · 13/10/2019 11:53

Previous poster... name changed.

(Ex) DH & I together 4 years, married 2.
I have 3 DS live in, He has 2 DS (1 NC & 1 holiday contact)

The issue, and my question is have I given up to easily?

We took, my DS 2&3 and SS on holiday abroad this summer and all were really excited.
To make a long story very short, DH was bit niggly with me from leaving home to travel. Never had any issues in our relationship (or so I thought).
We both had some alcohol but he was drinking a bit more than me.
Day 1 in resort (all inclusive), he's still being a snippy and my DS 2 has enough and tells him not to keep talking to me that way.
Things are left untill getting ready for dinner that evening.
DH flips, threatening DS 2 and being quiet physical. Verbally abusive to myself and kids.
I take kids to another room for evening. Unfortunately can't afford it for rest of week and all end up in same apartment.
Kids and I make most of holiday which he spends alone drinking.
I had DF collect my son's and I from airport and tell DH he is no longer welcome in my home and as his behaviour towards my son was so abhorrent out marriage is over.

It's been a few months and looking back although never aggressive he was moody and ignorant at times, which I put To work schedule and travel time.

Thing is although I know I could never have him around my DC have I given up on my marriage to quick?

Any clarification needed please ask.

Thanks in advance

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Northernsoullover · 13/10/2019 11:56

No. You did 100% the right thing. Walking on eggshells is no way to live.

Interestedwoman · 13/10/2019 12:00

No way! He threatened your son. Please don't go back to him. Sooner or later he could act on the threat. Making threats to one's wife's children is not normal and goes beyond being a red flag. It's a giant red gazebo or something!

Finallygotthere · 13/10/2019 12:04

Yep that's how I feel... I just wondered if maybe he needed some kind of help. Should I have supported him while keeping him away from my family home.

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