To wonder why he doesn't read these messages?

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DH has a DS - 13. Ex is difficult and spiteful. Has Problems with her MH so emotions and anger cycles, goes through phases.
She often 'lashes out' at DH and sends these epic angry text messages. (So large you have to double click them to open)
The most recent one resulted from DSS not answering calls/texts from DH. It's due to be his weekend with us. But he is ignoring requests to be collected. Finally get response from Ex saying DSS isn't coming this weekend. DH won't tell me the reason why 'because he hasn't read the message because it's too big' I understand he is sick of the abuse. But surely he should be trying to get to the bottom of it, even if it is her just being a nightmare!
His GP's are here from overseas and he has spent 2 days with them, over a 6 weekend period - he is making no effort with them, which is unkind. Surely he should be trying to get to the bottom of this mess? Or is he just 'grey rocking'

He's a teenagers who probably doesn't have a great relationship with his grandparents so is avoiding them. DH needs to read the message to find out what's going on.

Or course he should be reading them.
How strange.
Can he forward them to you? Not that you should have to read them for him

1. Stay out of the relationship between your DSS and his father. It's not your business.

The DSS is only 13 and sounds like has had a belly full already of shite between his parents.

1. Your last paragraph - its not clear who is 'he' is. Can you clarify the different parties involved.

If dh gets a lot of these epic angry texts, this may be one too many and he may just be feeling he has lost the will to live, especially with the stress of having parents here. But, yes, of course he should be reading them to find out what is going on with his ds.

Teenagers are not usually in a rush to visit gps as tend to find it boring tbh.

spent 2 days with them, over a 6 weekend period - DSS is making no effort with them, which is unkind. Surely DH should be trying to get to the bottom of this mess? Or is he just 'grey rocking'

DH won't show them to me, as often I get thrown unkind comments.

I think you have to stay out of it OP. It sounds like the whole relationship is very toxic. As hard as it may be, for your own sanity, I think I'd leave it up to DH. Sounds exhausting and perhaps that's why messages aren't read - DSS is fed up of stuff between his parents and DH is fed up with ex.

He should read them in an ideal world....but if the ex is really unreasonable, he may already know what they contain....might be a long list of insults and nothing of substance.

As his son is 13, their relationship should be moving away from management by the Mother anyway.

I used to read them, but it broke my heart to read the abuse. Unfounded accusations. But it still frustrates me that from one day to the next we don't know what's happening. I understand why he avoids them, but think it would help to face it head on.