Aibu to be worried about the amount of stress I'm under in my pregnancy. Can it do any damage.

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I'm 24+3
We moved house Into a private one. And it's been nothing but stress. Major defects.. The estate agent keeps Sending people to do quotes and then not communicating anything.
We've found out we have a water leak.. I notified them.lunchtime yesterday after being passed from them to water board for an hour. Should of heard back and didn't.
They told me fuel supplier was xx. Couldn't get thro with no account number.
Contacted my. Previous to do a switch.. Just had email saying its been rejected by supplier. Went on the xx website and aparantly they don't supply me..

Gaps in Windows causing draughts, you can fit a coin in the gaps.
No locks on some of the outer doors.. Just little bolts.

One door we have no. Key to.

That's just some of it.
The LL is visiting tomorrow to try some of his keys and I'm going to. Mention how piss poor the agents are.
I. Mean there was a 10 inch blade, weapon like left in car port.. And a batton.! Surely this should of been removed?

I am not sleeping averaging 4 hours broken sleep a night. No chance of a day nap
. Dh is trying to deal With as much as he can but he's at work 6 days so lots falls on me. Toddler is unsettled with the move.
I have never ever felt so stressed. We sort 1.thing and 2 more, seemingly more major Things go wrong

When we viewed the house it looked a bit run down. But we said a. Quick flick of paint and would be lovely. We did not expect to find. Rotten floors, missing floorboards etc etc.

I'm. Worried this is going to cause issues with our baby.

When you think that many women have to deal with major issues like bereavement, war, domestic violence and so on during pregnancy, I wouldn’t worry too much about the baby. Our bodies are very resilient, so comfort yourself with that thought.

Having said that, try to do whatever you can to get more sleep and relaxation time. Book yourself into a hotel for a night here or there if necessary.

Yeah didn't think of that.

Ah a hotel would be lovely but not doable with dh working hours. May book an extra CM session for a day nap this week :)

Childcare to let the parents sleep is an underrated idea.

I watched my dad die at 7 mpnths pg. DD is fine.

Think of it this way - whose who find themselves pregnant with an unwanted child are under huge stress - if stress was such a factor there would be little need for terminations as the shock and horror would be enough to unravel the pregnancy.

There are also successful pregnancies to incarcerated and homeless individuals also under great stress.

Just make sure you eat well and have midwife watch the blood pressure as she would normally do.

I’m sorry this is so stressful BUT don’t further stress about the impact on the baby.

I've been pregnant with a DH with cancer. I've been pregnant with twins, one with a terminal genetic disorder who died at 32wks and carried his sister to 38 weeks. I have two wonderful, clever, happy children.

Life is never perfect, you just have to make the best of it.

Good luck x

My mum died suddenly when I was 24 weeks pregnant. My son is fine.

I had dc4 by elcs 2 weeks early due to my severe anxiety, he is perfectly healthy and happy and has now started school. Whilst i was pregnant with him my mental health and anxiety escalated massively due to my over riding fear that dc1 or dc3 would die shortly after i had given birth, because thats what happened when dc3 was born, he was 10 days old and his sister, dc2 died suddenly from sepsis age 3. If you are worried please speak to your midwife, luckily a midwife was in the supermarket the day i broke down in uncontrollable tears because they had run out of bananas and she had me in seeing my consultant the next day.

My dad died suddenly and completely unexpectedly when I was pregnant and it made absolutely no difference to the baby.

Try not to worry.

I had a tough second pregnancy and a situation that triggered antenatal depression. I too was worried about the baby but she was totally fine. The midwife wasn't worried for her either.

I know it's rough on us but nature tends to keep the baby protected - us poor mums absorb all the stresses and the illnesses while they're all safe and snug!

I hope things get better for you and congratulations