AIBU to not know what to do with my husband

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He’s under a lot of pressure work wise and I’m doing my best to support and hold him up practically and emotionally. We’ve two children and both work (me part time) and he runs his own business, plus we’re having an extension built. Last Sunday he lost his temper with me nagging him about leaving socks and pants in the front room and drove off for a couple of hours... children were beside themselves. Today he’s basically given me one word answers since 1830, we’d been to cinema and I protested that I didn’t want to look in Game shop as son has a football match an hour from home at 0900. He’s clearly struggling but so sulky and I’m trying to talk to him but he won’t look at me or talk

That sounds tough. Has he sought any support for his stress? Perhaps visited the doctor?

Oh sulky behaviour is so childish and so annoying. I'd stop trying to mend fences at this point, have a bath and go to bed with a good book. Hopefully he'll realise what a dick he's being and apologise.

He may be under a lot of stress at work but he shouldn't take it out on you. When he's stopped sulking, gently suggest he speaks to someone professional to gain coping strategies to deal with it all.

I don’t know if you have it where you are but there’s a group called Andys man club, basically for men to just get together and talk about what’s going on, whether it be just for a laugh or something serious, maybe you could suggest that? As for the falling out over socks and pants, you’ve both got to understand that things that are bothersome to one another are completely ridiculous and irrelevant to the other, I know it’s hard but you just need to try and talk, when the kids are in bed, just go up to him and say we need to have a talk, they shit themselves a bit and then you can get your message across. I hope anyways!

I really appreciate your replies, it’s probably my fault for being grumpy about not going in the shop. I’ve managed to stay polite and positive but I actually feel cross inside, he fell asleep an hour ago now but I’ll be awake a while. I’ll have to try and be more patient, but as I’m doing the bulk of house stuff, school stuff and extra curricular I need a routine to help me cope with it.

Don't start taking the blame for his behaviour! You're a family, you should be a team, working together doing the routine stuff.

Why should you be more patient? The sulky prick is acting like a child.
He sounds like an asshole!

Still sulking...

He's sulking because he didn't get to look in Game?

He's your husband! Sounds like a teenager!

He’s sulking because he feels I ruined the outing