Alone2016
Hello please help.
I’ve been with my partner now For over three years. I have a grown up family and he has a teenager with an ex partner who he split with almost 10 years ago.
Since moving in together I’ve discovered everything he told me about his relationship with his ex is a lie (because we saw each other 3-4 times a week I didn’t realise the time he spent with her. He told me he lived with a friend but he was actually living with the ex tho I know they weren’t sleeping together). He still does everything for and with her and his excuse is their child.
I want him to see as much of his child as possible and also provide financial support, the child will always come first and I agree completely with this.
Please give me your thoughts on the following and tell me if you think I’m being unreasonable:
I’m not allowed any kind of relationship with his child, I’ve seen her five times in over three years only when we’ve been out together and she’s asked for a lift, she’s not allowed to talk to me (mothers rules).
He pays me board but gives his ex the rest of his money, if we go anywhere I have to pay.
His name is still on her bills, he’s on her council tax bill, he goes to weddings, christenings, birthday parties with her I’m not allowed to go. Now I find he has taken car insurance in his name on her car for the third year running after telling me he wouldn’t. She was banned from driving several years ago and lost her licence so now only has a provisional. She’s supposedly been taking driving lessons for the past two years but doesn’t need to drive because she has him. He takes her shopping, I go alone. He spends Christmas Day with her, buys their child’s gifts together, buys her gifts but not me. They are still each other’s next of kin. He lies all the time has secrets and I’ve come to the decision this relationship needs to end because it’s not good for me. He says he loves me, how can you love someone and have such disregard for their feelings just because you have a child with someone else?he even ignores my calls when he’s with her because it upsets her although I don’t call very often. Am I being unreasonable?