Paying for event ticket for friend

[Polly345]

My friend asked me to buy theatre tickets for us both. We agreed she would give me the money on the day. The day before she said she 'might' not be able to go because her car was in the garage. By the day of the performance she still hadn't confirmed either way.
My question is should I just take the loss or ask her for the money?

Sounds like she's changed her mind and doesn't want to go .
Yes I'd ask her for the money if not can someone else go with you ?

She needs to pay. The agreement was that she would pay on the day of the performance. The agreement said nothing about her attending or not. I assume she didn't go?

Depending on your history (has she paid you back before?), you may or not, get your money back.

No way she needs to pay

She definitely needs to pay. If she's even a little bit funny about it I'd be seriously reconsidering the friendship. Bad enough that she let you down on the trip, unless there really was no way she could get there/to you without her car.

By the day of the performance she still hadn't confirmed either way.

Dod you both go?

She needs to pay, just ask her it was the agreement

You should definitely ask for your money back but I wouldn't hold my breath.

Asking you to both her a ticket was a commitment even if she hadn’t decided to go or not, she still asked you to buy her a ticket and you spent the money - so she owes you for the ticket even if she doesn’t go.
If she did change her mind she could’ve looked into the possibility of returning them for a refund, or selling them on - but that would be her responsibility to lead. Not going doesn’t mean she doesn’t have to pay.

Yes she should give you the money

She needs to pay you! She’s a CF!

I asked loads of people if they would like to take the ticket but as it was such short notice they had other plans. I asked another friend who said she would like to but couldn't afford it. So I let her use the ticket rather than let it be wasted.

She either needs to pay or find someone to take her place. CF.

The original friend hasn't asked if I managed to get someone else to go. She just asked if I went.
I would have went on my own if I had to rather than waste two tickets.

I think you will have to chalk it up to experience and not do the same again in the future . What I find interesting is that you were happy to take the other friend as a freebie but not the original friend despite her telling you she had to pay for her car etc obviously meaning she couldn’t afford the ticket . Perhaps you should have offered the ticket to her and said give me the money when you can afford it .

The original friend wasn't saying she couldn't afford it. Her reason for not going was she 'doesn't use public transport'.

Also if she had offered me the money for the ticket I would have refused it. The part that got to me was that she had known for a couple of days previously that this might happen.

Er, what are people thinking! Of course she should pay - her problems do not change the fact she owes the OP for her ticket, and if anyone was obliged to find someone to take it on, then it was her, not OP.

OP, she is not your friend if she doesn't pay up. Act on that information.

I am a normal person. I recently was ill and unable to attend a function I had already paid a friend for (she had bought the tickets - I paid her using one of the myriad of ways available online, without needing to see her). I told her to give away my ticket if she could rather than waste it. As anyone would, IMO.

If she doesn't pay up, she is a cheeky fucker. Don;t have cheeky fuckers as friends.

OP, you are a doormat! why would you have declined her money for a ticket she wanted?? You only ordered it because she had agreed to go!

Apologies if you meant the friend who used the ticket in the end - I'd have done the same rather than it be totally wasted. xx

Are people really so passive when people owes them money? No wonder some people get away with outrageous behaviour. She wanted the ticket, you bought it for her and she owed you the money regardless if she went or not.

Totally ask her for the money. If she was very ill or something I'd feel bad doing it but she asked you to get her the ticket, she knew you paid for it, and she just changed her mind. That's disgusting behaviour. Even when I've had to cancel something due to not being well I've paid my share when people would have otherwise been out of pocket.

I think you need to be direct with her, she clearly sees you as a soft touch and you aren’t really proving her wrong

You can hardly get the money from her now seeing as you gave the ticket away for free to another friend. But you certainly should not have agreed to get the money on the day of the event. She should have transferred the money to you as soon as you had booked the tickets. Don't get fooled again.

The point is “Because you made the decision not to go at such a late hour, it wasn’t possible to resell your ticket so you still need to pay for it”.

Now the event date has passed and you’ve given away the ticket for free I think it might be more problematic to get the money back from her though 🤔 because if I were her I’d just say that the person who attended should instead.

*should pay instead