Mother in law coming over whenever she wants and not telling me ?

[TonightYoureAStar]

Oh I don’t know what to think about this, it’s my MIL - a lovely lady but she’s starting to come over a bit too often - without letting me know. Now don’t get me wrong, it comes in handy when I need her to look after my DSs aged 6 and 4, but I’m not working at the moment so I don’t actually need her so I feel like im doing her a favour. I understand she might be lonely, or bored but she can be annoying - because she doesn’t eat anything other than chicken and potatoes (I’m a veggie) so it’s awkward when we have dinner as I feel I have to accommodate her, and ultimately it’s my house and I should feel free to cook what I want. Also she is now starting to text my mum and discuss with her when she’s coming over - again without letting me know so I have to then accommodate / deal with both of them - who are quick to tell me I’m being ‘precious’ when i complain AIBU ???

@willowmelangell a stray dog?!?!?

No, no. Mumsnet isn't anti-MIL at all ...

Stop using her when it suits you.
You’re telling her it’s fine to come over by doing this.

Now don’t get me wrong, it comes in handy when I need her to look after my DSs aged 6 and 4, but I’m not working at the moment so I don’t actually need her so I feel like im doing her a favour. I understand she might be lonely, or bored but she can be annoying

Wow, just wow! You're just a peach aren't you!

Talk to her. Explain you do want to see her, but you need some notice. How about xx on XX day, or we can meet up for . Everyone knows what to expect, then.

I drop in on DIL to see if she needs anything, give her something I have bought. I never stay for food though. A cup of tea is fine anything more is something you plan in advance I would have thought.

Yep exactly my thought - thanks

What????