To say a partner can heal you

[WhatTheFluck]

From past traumas such as being cheated on and that there is no need for outside help if this is the case?

Nobody else can "heal" you. You can only "heal" yourself. Some people need outside help to heal. Others don't.

YABU. A person invariably leaves themselves wide open to being abused by the 'rescuer' in such cases.

God no. Terrible basis for a relationship.
Not to mention that if people don't look hard at themselves they choose the same type of partner again and again even if they're shit.
And that if you're any older than about 22 you should be very wary of people who seem perfect, because nobody is.

I think being treated well and learning that you have value will always help but agree it has to come from you yourself. That's true if you have professional help or not.

Yabu, any "healing" based on a relationship would only work so long as the relationship is great. Relationships aren't always great. Healing comes from within and can't rely on outside factors. Being cheated on is part of life, it reflects on the cheater not the person cheated on, knowing your self worth is what heals that

Don’t be daft.

A good partner can facilitate healing, but they can't do it for you.

No, and it’s not healthy to put so much dependency for security on another person

My partner is amazing. Never thought I could be so happy just months after being cheated on. He has shown me true love and what a relationship should be like. He is a lovely man and has loads of friends. Nobody has a bad word to say about him. He encourages me to be happy and not dwell on the past.
I know I would have got there in time (healed ) without him, although it would have taken longer. I just feel so fortunate to have met him and feel the way I do. I feel the past hurts have led him to me.
As I said, I know I would have healed in time, I just feel really lucky.

How long were you with your last partner, OP, if you are now healed as you say? Maybe the excitement of a new relationship is masking the pain or perhaps you were not in love with last partner? Asking with good intentions.

I agree with the PP that it's not about someone else, you need to be responsible for your own happiness. Don't put that responsibility (you being happy) on a third party, especially 'just months' in to a new relationship.

I was deeply in love with my ex husband but after he cheated, I now see him for who he is and realise how one sided our relationship was. We were together for 14 years. He left last April and I got with my partner in the August and have never been happier, he has taught me what it is to be loved.

Been together 13 months now and considering moving in together to answer the other question.
We only see each other of a weekend now but ready to take the next step.
I do feel so lucky and fortunate to have met him but I think I would have been ok if we hadn't met, it would just have taken me longer to get there. As it stands, he has brought a lot of joy back into my life since we met and has helped me heal quicker.