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To think don't keep taking my drink at work?

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openitsoicanseeyousmile · 12/10/2019 15:34

I'm known to bring a can of drink in everyday for lunch. It's kept in the shared fridge at work - Everyone knowns it's mine as there's a little section box for each person with their name on.

A colleague of mine is pregnant and for the third time has taken my drink and not bothered replacing it. When questioned, she says something along the lines of "Sorry! Bad sickness. This helps. I'll get a new one for you tomorrow".

She always does, it's there the following day. But it means having to go out at lunchtime to get another one. The local shop is only 2 minutes away but it means eating up time I don't have since I have 30 minutes lunch.

I'm really not sure how to go about it. If it was the usual person, I'd tell them to stop the cheek and buy their own to bring in! But she's pregnant and suffering from sickness. I had HG with my son so I feel awful at the thought of telling her she can most certainly never take from me again without asking Sad

I remember the horrendous feeling of needing something sweet and fizzy to curve the sickness and it did often help, so I imagine it's very helpful to her.

Perhaps I should buy a multipack and suggest she goes half's so we can both enjoy them during the week? Or is this too doormat like?

I'm really not sure how to go about it. I don't think she thinks she's being cheeky in the slightest, and is an otherwise lovely colleague.

What would you do? I usually have no issues being assertive but I feel as if the lines have been blurred.

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ilovejeffgoldblum · 14/10/2019 15:28

Reported you gill for frankly offensive comments!

gill1960 · 14/10/2019 15:29

It has only happened 3 times if you read the op

Singlebutmarried · 14/10/2019 15:29

My hormones are wonky

Can I help myself to whatever I want?

openitsoicanseeyousmile · 14/10/2019 15:30

So why couldn't she have seen sense after the first time, as a reminder to bring in her own next time if it helps so much that you would take without asking?

It also happened for the 4th time today in a way, I will explain further in 10 when I'm home

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catswhiskers15 · 14/10/2019 15:30

Gill, If you have experienced racism then that is really unfortunate, However you are behaving in exactly the same way when you attack the English Education system, and use peoples Nationality against them.
No one on here knew your Nationality until you used it as an insult to others. The fact of the matter is that no one wants any one jailed for taking soft -drinks. What the poster wants is courtesy. i.e. ask and explain and then replace the drink if possible that day and also common sense .e.g. bring in your own supply of drinks to help the morning sickness or give some extra money to the tea/coffee fund and have fizzy drinks put on the coffee order not silly behaviour such as consistently taking someones lunch -time drink. Also if the morning sickness is very severe and someone is popping to the shop at lunch, give them some money and ask them to pick up some fizzy drinks for her. There is so many ways for this expectant lady to resolve this without causing issues for her co-workers. The OP sounds like a lovely person who wouldn't mind a once off occurrence but she is perfectly entitled to expect her lunch, drink or whatever she brings to be in the fridge for her break each day.

gill1960 · 14/10/2019 15:33

Actually the abortion law only applies in the north of Ireland ... and is currently being brought before the ecj

Not Ireland where I am from

ThatLibraryMiss · 14/10/2019 15:34

gill1960, I have you now! You're a Brexiteer, trying to stir up anti-forrin sentiment!

In Europe we have an intelligent base of the electorate and no politicians lie and treat us as fools

Oh dearie me no.

ptumbi · 14/10/2019 15:42

English are not a different race to the Irish.

HTH.

Hormones affect 100% of the human race. (Different hormones for different sexes at different times of their lives. None of them is an excuse to steal, otherwise the LAW of the LAND would reflect this,)

Not a Nurse.

Female, Menopausal.
3 Kids, never stole anything during Baby Brain or at any other time.

Bibidy · 14/10/2019 15:45

I'd buy the multi-pack and just not mention it to her.

That way at least if she takes one she will still continue to replace it but you also won't be left short on your lunch break. Problem solved.

snowball28 · 14/10/2019 15:45

It also happened for the 4th time today in a way, I will explain further in 10 when I'm home

WHAT?! She is unbelievable 👀

Bibidy · 14/10/2019 15:45

I do think she's being rude though - you're right that she should recognise she needs to buy some drinks of her own and keep them at work in case she needs them. Why keep taking yours?

Binglebong · 14/10/2019 15:48

My guess - took the field one and replaced it with a warm one. Ultimate PA piss take!

Travis1 · 14/10/2019 15:53

Oh she didn't did she?

AryaStarkWolf · 14/10/2019 15:56

What a shame abortion is so very difficult to obtain for the women of Ireland.

Abortion is legal in Ireland now actually (In the Republic anyway)

AryaStarkWolf · 14/10/2019 15:56

also how did this turn into Ireland Vs England? Confused

catswhiskers15 · 14/10/2019 16:02

AryaStarkWolf,

I hear you! but unfortunately it turned into an Ireland vsEngland issue because common sense flew out of the window. When the explanation of hormones wasn't being accepted...the insults started..
Confused

QueenBeex · 14/10/2019 16:04

Irish Gill you're making this thread take a very odd turn.
Please let us focus on the stolen fizzy drink situation.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 14/10/2019 16:05

Probably our hormones, innit?

Grin
SchadenfreudePersonified · 14/10/2019 16:07

Burritofan

Grin Grin Grin

MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain · 14/10/2019 16:08

Get one of these - cheap, will definitely fit a can in (I know as we used one for sons phone, it was hilarious) and will get your point across Grin

To think don't keep taking my drink at work?
JustHereWithPopcorn · 14/10/2019 16:08
Shock
FrancisCrawford · 14/10/2019 16:11

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 14/10/2019 16:12

That mobile phone jail looks amazing!

I don't need one for anything . . . and yet I want one even more than a whale butterfish . . .

SchadenfreudePersonified · 14/10/2019 16:12

*ButterDISH

Bastarding autocorrect

AryaStarkWolf · 14/10/2019 16:15

I hear you! but unfortunately it turned into an Ireland vsEngland issue because common sense flew out of the window. When the explanation of hormones wasn't being accepted...the insults started..

That's disappointing.

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