To think don't keep taking my drink at work?

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I'm known to bring a can of drink in everyday for lunch. It's kept in the shared fridge at work - Everyone knowns it's mine as there's a little section box for each person with their name on.

A colleague of mine is pregnant and for the third time has taken my drink and not bothered replacing it. When questioned, she says something along the lines of "Sorry! Bad sickness. This helps. I'll get a new one for you tomorrow".

She always does, it's there the following day. But it means having to go out at lunchtime to get another one. The local shop is only 2 minutes away but it means eating up time I don't have since I have 30 minutes lunch.

I'm really not sure how to go about it. If it was the usual person, I'd tell them to stop the cheek and buy their own to bring in! But she's pregnant and suffering from sickness. I had HG with my son so I feel awful at the thought of telling her she can most certainly never take from me again without asking

I remember the horrendous feeling of needing something sweet and fizzy to curve the sickness and it did often help, so I imagine it's very helpful to her.

Perhaps I should buy a multipack and suggest she goes half's so we can both enjoy them during the week? Or is this too doormat like?

I'm really not sure how to go about it. I don't think she thinks she's being cheeky in the slightest, and is an otherwise lovely colleague.

What would you do? I usually have no issues being assertive but I feel as if the lines have been blurred.

*hormonal normal behaviour based on the pituitary gland of men and women?!

Did you just just google where do hormones come from and plonked pituitary gland in a sentence? 😂.

• biochemist (actual) lynz

No I didn't

You haven't read the whole thread from me about hormones Male and female and baby brain causing a lack of planning and normal skills

Nurse gill

still manage to understand that if they need a drink, they can go to the shop any buy one all by themselves - and if it's truly an emergency "gonna boak if'n I don't drink OP's pop NOW!" - then drink it, and then replace it immediately before OP starts her lunch^

and have the good manners and consideration to ASK OP before just taking it.

Nope I have RTFT including all of your comments. Absolutely nothing you've said regarding hormones excuses repeated theft of part of a colleagues lunch, as CF is clearly perfectly capable of working for a start so shes got more than enough cognitive ability to know not to do what she's doing time and time again. I believe it's the repeated nature of the CFs behaviour which is annoying OP who sounds perfectly reasonable in her complaint to this effect.

Glad HR know OP, and that your boss has your back and also recognises this woman is abusing her pregnancy excuse to be a CF. I had severe HG to point I ended up signed off work laterly with my DD, and still manged to refrain from taking my colleagues lunch drinks whilst breezily excusing myself because PREGNANT.

Tannoy announcement. Nurse Gill to report to secondary school y7 for retraining, Nurse Gill to secondary school for retraining, thank you. Please remember your colouring pens.

You haven't read the whole thread from me about hormones Male and female and baby brain causing a lack of planning and normal skills

Care to repost it without the insults, so we can see what you're trying to argue?

Perhaps it's a language issue, though - hormones do not cause one to behave differently, they can influence one to behave differently. Which as a HCP you must know is important - determining cause and effect?

JesusInTheCabbageVan

She remembers to replace it everyday though, doesn’t she.

She remembers to replace it everyday though, doesn’t she.

The following day though. Presumably the OP brought to have with her lunch so now she has no drink

I would start leaving passive aggressive post it notes on my drinks "Belongs To PepsiLola"

CF

She is taking the piss, I had awful sickness when pregnant with my DS was sick atleast 10 times a day until the day he was born I wouldn't have taken anyone's drink without asking, doesn't matter if she replaces it, she should ask first.

She's a CF, probably the type that thinks because she's pregnant everyone should treat her like a princess

Wet nurse hmm? Nursery Nurse maybe? Bottle of Night nurse cough syrup? Possibly.

Actual trained medical professional?

Questionable.

She remembers to replace it everyday though, doesn’t she.

The following day though. Presumably the OP brought to have with her lunch so now she has no drink

@AryaStarkWolf My reply was more in the response to the poor pregnant CF and her hormones affecting her brain. That she manages to go to the shop everyday and replace it, so she can’t be that forgetful....

Maybe I missed the "lady hormones turn you klepto" lesson during GCSE biology

I suggest you use this line when she utters her next faux apology, because it sums things up beautifully.

still giggling

Lol

Irish nurse Gill no one is trying to get anyone sent to jail, we'd all just like her to stop taking advantage of the op and not use pregnancy as an excuse.

Also OP if I send you my address will you post me a multipack of KA fruit punch as its my favourite, it can be an early Christmas gift?

She remembers to replace it everyday though, doesn’t she.

Yep.

So instead of just replacing OP's, I wounder why she doesn't buy a couple of cans to keep handy at work.

Oh - sorry - forgot she has BABY BRAIN.

To all the people suggesting to just buy a multipack and share it with her - why?

Why should the OP be out of pocket be use she can’t be arsed bringing in her own drinks? Sure a multi pack is only £1.50. I’m guessing it lasts the OP a week but to double the amount she buys so CF can have free drinks would cost an extra £78 a year. No way would I be doing that.

I might be tempted to get her warned by HR though. If she is stealing from other employees, what else would she be dishonest about?

Once is forgivable, everyday is taking the piss, she can bring her own drinks in.

Gill is (according to another thread) a veterinary nurse of 30yrs standing...

She remembers to replace it everyday though, doesn’t she.

Yep.

So instead of just replacing OP's, I wonder why she doesn't buy a couple of cans to keep handy at work.

Oh - sorry - forgot she has BABY BRAIN.

See that’s the bit that baffles me. Why, if she goes to the shop to replace the OPs everyday, doesn’t she just buy a few more for herself?

I want a multipack!

My tummy is a bit chubby, and I’m menopausal which is known to basically mean you should be locked away from polite society. Surely I pass for some-kind-of-female-hormonal excuse.

If no one sends me a multipack I’m going to take one from Tesco and I will get them one back whenever.

And thank god no one says ‘typical Irish’ as it would be racist....