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Can my boss refuse me mandatory training?

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Advicewel · 12/10/2019 00:45

I told my boss I was looking for a new job, which could take months due to finding it difficult to travel to work as I don't drive and local public transport has been cut, which would mean an hours walk from a train station which isn't bad during the day but at 10pm finishes could be risky.
My boss was putting me through a qualification which would of had me stay for 2 years which was why I had to tell her that I couldn't do it and was looking for something closer to home, I thought that by telling the truth everything would be OK until the other day when I was due to go on a mandatory training course with a few other staff members to be told it was cancelled to another day and that I was excluded from it. I just feel down, I've always done overtime and in my own time done alot of unpaid work for the company.
AIBU for feeling a bit depressed by being treated that way?

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Original poster
Advicewel · 12/10/2019 15:40

I would love to....but working tonight then 13 hours tomorrow, no wine no chocolate nothing!

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PrestonNotHeston · 12/10/2019 15:45

So you're currently spending 2 hours a day walking to and from the station, then getting the train, just to get to work?

57Varieties · 12/10/2019 15:50

You shot yourself in the foot by telling them you were looking elsewhere.

Sounds like you’re in care, if so care homes are forever looking for staff. Is there really nowhere nearer home?

Original poster
Advicewel · 12/10/2019 16:19

Originally I was just a bus ride away, the bus company cut the route a month ago, I don't mind walking in summer but it's fast approaching winter and hate the thought of walking in the dark by myself esp late at night and very early mornings. People suggesting bikes though, there's a reason most people don't ride them, nobody can stick a sore arse.

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FrancisCrawford · 12/10/2019 16:46

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Sooverthemill · 12/10/2019 17:32

People suggesting bikes though, there's a reason most people don't ride them, nobody can stick a sore arse.

Millions of people ride a bike every day. Because the can't afford a car, they like to, it's even as healthy and loads of other reasons.

I still don't understand if there are TWO different training things yiu are talking about. But gah your attitude may be why they no longer wish to include you

FavouriteSong · 12/10/2019 17:47

In what world do most people NOT ride bikes? Lots of people cycle to and from work. It saves money on fuel or bus fare, and keeps you fit. Most companies have a cycle to work scheme.

HeadintheiClouds · 12/10/2019 17:50

The “most people don’t ride bikes” comment is just bizarre Confused
We have no less than three sets of Boris Bikes (I don’t know what the schemes are actually called) locally.
More people do than don’t.

PrincessRaven · 12/10/2019 21:00

Having a sore arse is no excuse not to ride.

Get a bike from freecycle or Facebook, some lights, or find a job that's not so far away from home

What is it you do?

Cohle · 12/10/2019 21:06

People suggesting bikes though, there's a reason most people don't ride them, nobody can stick a sore arse

Sorry, what?? HmmGrin

AloneLonelyLoner · 12/10/2019 22:01

You lost me at most people can't stick a sore arse. Have you ever been to mainland Europe? Some cities you can't move for cyclists. Or even looked at a photo?

I handle training budgets and I wouldn't spend an extra penny on someone who had one foot out the door. Your difficulties with commute etc aren't the concern of your employer.

Good for you that you are looking for something else, but it wasn't in your best interests to tell them.
They don't owe you anything. You don't owe them anything.

Comefromaway · 12/10/2019 22:05

You have padded gel seats these days.

BBBaby8369 · 13/10/2019 04:27

Also cycling shorts with padding too

Hesafriendfromwork · 13/10/2019 05:17

You say its mandatory. What does that actually mean?

Companies have lots if dufferentbryoes of mandatory training.

There training that legally you must undergo every 12 months or a 2 years or whatever.

Then some companies make their employee undertake 'mandatory traning', when they actually mean they want everyone to do it. In my company that might be a course with the HR director or management training day. Not legally mandatory, but your employer insists.

Although to be honest, you sounds a bit 'life is unfair' while either making your life harder or not doing anything to help yourself. The bike remark is daft and says to me you dont eant suggestions on how to make your life easier.

Did you tell them you were leaving expecting a them to ask you to stay? You didnt have to tell them you are leaving. You could have given loads of reasons.

differentnameforthis · 13/10/2019 06:29

if you are leaving, they are not going to pay for you to do training. That's a conflict of interest as you will be taking the knowledge gained in that training elsewhere.

They won't benefit from it for long.

Original poster
Advicewel · 13/10/2019 13:39

Those that say millions cycle to work, correct they do in daytime hours not at night. And how many of you do cycle? It's easy for those to make comments but probably don't do it themselves. if you yourself never cycle to work then why comment and tell others to do so? sore arse was a joke. alot of judgemental people on here with the do as I say not as I do attitude.

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Sooverthemill · 13/10/2019 13:41

People who need/want to bike to work have lights! My DH has incredibly powerful lights that he charges every few weeks. People are merely offering you suggestions. I'm not surprised your boss seems happy to see you go tbh

Redlocks28 · 13/10/2019 13:47

I've done it off my own back.

Bat.

Sorry Grin

Mimsnethe · 13/10/2019 13:48

You sound exactly like a woman on my team.

She regularly tells me she’s looking in to either moving back to her home country, or changing job and move to a different company. Then she wonders why she’s not on the top of my list when it comes to approving courses, further education, additional bonuses etc.

LIZS · 13/10/2019 13:54

This sounding familiar , did you post recently about issues getting to work in a remote location for an early start for your ideal job? If not there were plenty of ideas on that thread.

Why would you expect a company to invest in training an employee who may only be there a short time? How long service do you have so far, under 2 years and you could be asked to leave. Does noone travel from neighbouring town who could liftshare, or you use taxi/uber.

IsobelRae23 · 13/10/2019 13:54

Are you moving and handling service users? If so then did your last certificate run out? It may well still be in date, hence you not going on the training. If it is out of date, you can not continue doing these activities.

PrincessRaven · 13/10/2019 14:44

The walk itself to my home is 3 hours, the closest train station is an hours walk away.

so why do you work so far from home then?

Comefromaway · 13/10/2019 15:31

Those that say millions cycle to work, correct they do in daytime hours not at night. And how many of you do cycle?

When my dd is in a show that finishes approx 10pm she cycles back or pays for a taxi. Taxis are expensive but it’s just what she needs to do every so often.

Sooverthemill · 13/10/2019 15:57

@PrincessRaven lots of people do need to commute for work. If I had to work and go by train it would take me about an hour to walk to our nearest station! It isn't easy BH any means

PrincessRaven · 13/10/2019 16:14

@Sooverthemill

The walk itself to my home is 3 hours, the closest train station is an hours walk away.

If I had to work and go by train it would take me about an hour to walk to our nearest station!

So how do you get to work? (drive?)

I commute to work, and if i had to walk it, it would take at least 3 hours (and some) so i drive it. If i couldnt drive, i would take a job that was closer or easier to get to. I know OP said that she used to get a bus which has now stopped, but even so, the job seems to be a very long way from her home anyway

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