To think kissing friends on lips is weird?

[MiamiPup]

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I was talking to a friend today, and we spoke about how we greet people and friends. They said they often kiss friends on the lips, of whatever sex, and seemed to think this is normal. Not a full on snog mind, a peck. They seemed surprised when I said I find that very weird.

Am I the weird one here? I am not one for physical affection with anyone except my nearest and dearest so wonder if it's me that's the exception

Yep, UK born and bred and no cultural influences from anywhere else. Currently living in a small rural village on the North West - people are amazingly friendly. I think we see it as an opening / closing sign of trust and real friendship. Also, some of my friends have been through some real shit this year (stage 4 cancer and rape) and so I think that puts some of the rigid social mores into question. If someone wants a kiss, they get a kiss. Ten years ago I might have felt more awkward but with age comes a certain amount of freedom. Kisses all 💋

I’m very awkward about any kind of physical interaction with anybody that isn’t a romantic partner or my children, but then I grew up in a family where love was displayed with playfighting and insult humour. So I wouldn’t find it comfortable if a friend tried to greet me with a kiss on the lips - I’ve only just gotten used to IL’s who are cheek kissers/huggers.

I think so long as the people involved don’t mind it, it’s not unsavoury, but it should be respected that not all people like to greet each other this way and amend their greeting to suit.

@Wallywobbles

Just read your post. In terms of sex, I find kissing probably the most intimate act - certainly more than intercourse - because it's sensual, there's breathing together, nibbling, swapping fluids, it's warm and intimate... all the senses seem to be involved. And that is totally different to me to kissing a friend quickly on the lips. Not every shake of a penis to clear a few drops of urine is a wank lol.

@NaviSprite I agree with your sentiment that some people might be made to feel awkward. I come from parents for whom intimacy was a properly landed sharp slap around the head and no cuddles whatsoever. I think thats why it's taken me a while to find it totally normal.

.... on the plus side, isn't it great that we're all so different

Kissing friends on the lips id find weird. Definitely don't think it's weird kissing my child on the lips like Tensixtysix said though.

It’s a sad fucking day when people think that kissing your children on the lips is ‘inappropriate’.

Thurmanmurman i agree!

Ugh no. Sexual partners only.

Yuck! Yes, weird!!

Actually....very weird.

Plenty of lip kissers in my circle of friends and family.

Hugs and kisses here galore with friends and family but the kissing platonic friends and family slap on the lips totally gives me the creeps.

I had a lovely Uncle do it when I was growing up and it used to freak me out. I never said anything of course, because he was such a sweetheart but it used to really creep me out.

My husband and his sister's used to do it, very loving relationship, and whilst normally I wouldn't say a word I did tell him it creeped me out.
Before I said anything I canvassed some good friends and it freaked them out too.

Weird how strongly I feel about it!
I think my uncle had fat lips that were moist🤢

I am a lip kisser. Just a peck not a full on kiss but definitely a lip kisser. I don't see the issue!

I kiss my daughters (aged 10 & 12) on the lips and will continue to do so until they don't want to (if that time comes). The only other people I kiss on the lips are DH and my Dad - I guess my sister and I have always kissed him on the lips since we were small and have just never been uncomfortable with it, so have carried on. I don't think he'd be upset or offended if I went for the cheek instead though!

I would feel really uncomfortable kissing any of my friends on the lips, male or female. We all greet each other with a full hug and a kiss on the cheek, have done since we were teenagers.

The message really is whatever you feel comfortable with. What is weird for one person is not for another.

What about those people who kiss their mother and father on the lips? I’m talking adults here. 😓

NoSauce im an adult with my own son and I still kiss my mother on the lips and will continue to do so.

Grim

VERY weird to me! DH is from a latin country and they (he, his family and friends (we know a few that live near us from the same village in his home country) ) all do the 2 kisses thing - not only do his friends not do it to me unless we are close but my friends know to do it but would jever kiss me as a greeting, only him! Only really noticed yesterday and it made me laugh. I know loads of friends that do it to each other but no thanks. I will hug you if you're very happy/sad/scared, we're good. Some people are not touchy feely and some are very much so but I think kissing everyone in the lips is waaaay over the top by anyones standards. Either a bit mental or deliberately doing a 'thing' for attention. Bleurgh!

Lip kissing always reserved for sexual partners, friends and family are lucky to get near my cheek, no chance of kissing me on my lips.

My DS gives me a kiss on the lips and it's very sweet. None of my friends are lip kissers, we always do cheek kisses and hugs, but it wouldn't freak me out if one of them did.