Unexpected 3rd pregnancy

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Hi, I've just found out I'm pregnant, 1-2 weeks on Clear Blue Test (4 of them cos I didn't believe the first )

My husband and I have 2 girls and said no more, been trying to get him to have a vasectomy. I had pre-eclampsia in both pregnancies. My Dh is at work then on a night out so won't be home til late so I've got to figure out how to tell him and not sure how he'll react. I don't really know how I feel about it but don't think I could go through an abortion.. Any advice is most appreciated and welcome

Those with 3 how do you work it? Finances, child care etc? Thank you for reading!

I have gone through this twice ! We have 4. We've always worked around each other (until childcare was no longer an issue ) so we had very little or no childcare costs. they get lot more expensive as they get older. Ours are all at Uni or in teenage years now and it costs a lot ! Like you I could not have an abortion. You'll find a way to afford it.

I'm not in this situation, but my brother is. I really do think a lot depends on your financial situation now as you get no help for the 3rd baby. My brother is on minimum wage, his wife has never worked since she was 18 and had their first child (let's not go there), a third child will crucify them financially. His wife says she cannot go through an abortion so they're going ahead with the pregnancy. My heart breaks for my brother and his other children who we have already helped a lot financially. The older two have never been abroad, rarely get a day at the seaside etc so their lives will be negatively affected by another child. But, said child will be loved and be brought up in a loving home. So I don't think anyone can advise, only you can decide based on your circumstances. But congratulations

Exactly what happened me last year. I had pre eclampsia on my first two so was officially done. A two week stay in hospital after DC1 and a 8 nights after DC2 so
I dreaded the thoughts of all that drama. Dc3 is currently in my arms and I couldn't imagine not having her but I was very upset when I discovered I was pregnant

for you, it is a shock.

We found out I was expecting number three at a scan to investigate lack of periods (copper coil still in situ). I was 18 weeks pregnant (explained a lot!).

Number 3 meant huge changes for us. DH stopped work and became SAHP. Three lots of full time childcare was going to cost more than he earned. Having a parent at home meant that I could focus on my career and take opportunities which would otherwise not been possible (an expat move being one).

It isnt without cost. When DCs were old enough DH found returning to the workplace difficult.

This was all a long time ago now. DC3 is away at university, got engaged and is thinking of marrying next year.

Best wishes for whatever decision you make. I am glad that I found out too late to have any choice in the matter than carry on.

Thanks all. It's just a bit of a shock. Still not sure how to break the news to dh but I'll tell him tonight.

We have 3, all planned. It is hard and exhausting but I wouldn’t change it. It’s tough when they are little and childcare costs are huge but we’ve both tried to keep
Working in the hope we can see them through the expensive teenage years! Good luck, you will manage somehow