Cheeky or genuine

[Jasonbourne2000]

If a man has a girlfriend and asks you as a single woman if he can join you on holiday followed bu a flurry of love heart emojis, how would you respond?
There is a friendship history.
If you were a girlfriend of two years of this friend ,would this piss you off?

A. No
B. Yes

In the girlfriend's position, definitely would not like it.

Have you been on holiday together before and it is a close, long time friendship?

Sounds like he likes you...and not as a friend.

*is it..

Unless there was more context, e.g. you were going to his absolute favourite place in the world and it was more of a "OMG I'm so jealous, can I come with you, I love that place so much " message then I'd think it was damned inappropriate and I'd reply by saying something like "you can't but

A. No
B. Yes

Same

A. No
B. Yes

And I would be suspecting this man has also tried it on elsewhere, and may have succeeded.

The first question isn't a yes or no

How I responded would depend on my relationship with the sender? Good friend? Jokey response. Pervy colleague? Not so much.

It's understandable that the girlfriend would be pissed off.

We are long term friends who lost contact. He got inappropriate by text message and I swiftly broke contact . We are in contact again after a year. We have a shared love of travel and had often planned that we would travel together someday if my abusive ex was out of the picture . He is and now he has suggested this. I was not allowed contact with this particular friend then.

If I were the girlfriend in this scenario, it would probably upset me, however a huge amount depends on the context. Perhaps it was the holiday destination the man was referencing with the emojis? Do they have a long friendship and history of holidaying together?

I did not respond yet

A no
B yes

They had it before me.

I had not messaged the destination before I received the request to come along with me and the emojis. Although we do share mutual love for certain places . We often spoke of travelling together. My confidence is in my boots and I’m lost as to what is genuine or not .

Based on your updates, he doesn't seem to want to be a platonic friend.
Sure, he wants to travel with you but also seems interested in you romantically.

Think they are together a year past and have had a holiday together but in the UK. Our travel talks were about overseas travel destinations.

He's being inappropriate again. And he knows you've had a past vulnerability in an abusive relationship. Be careful.

Thanks@HobbyIsCodeForDogging... what an awesome username!
There has been a history of him
Often asking if he can join me
On my travels/ occasions/ events when I would jokingly brush him off . I was never allowed to so it never was an option. I never knew if he was joking or not . I still don’t I guess.

He was inappropriate via text before and he's already showing an inclination for inappropriateness again. He might be a good friend to you in other ways but he doesn't sound as though he's being a particularly good boyfriend to his partner. Does his GF not share his love of travel? Was he with her when you made your vague travel plans? Do they have the type of relationship where they holiday with other people?

This doesn't sound like a friendship from his side - inappropriateness, heart emojis etc. It sounds like he is either attracted to you, or he likes the thought of you being attracted to him. I can see how that could be attractive/seductive to you, if you've recently come out of an abusive relationship. No one would blame you for feeling flattered and enjoying a boost to your ego in those circumstances - so long as you kept it as a private feeling to yourself while he's in a relationship.

I was being slightly flippant above but in all seriousness I'd reply with something like "No, I'm really looking forward to getting away by myself/with

And to everyone else, thanks for replies so quickly

The first question isn't a yes or no

The first question is 'how would you respond?' 'How would you respond' can be answered with any word(s) - including the words 'yes' and 'no'.

I would respond no. I.e. No, you can't come on holiday with me.

@ScreamingValenta sorry I'll accept that I'm a dick 🙈

OP just say "ha, I'm going to Tenerife on x day. See you at the airport." If you're friendly with him.

If you think his girlfriend will be upset say "I'm not sure Pauline would be too happy."

If you don't want to be in this situation, shut him down.

@AmIThough You're not a dick. I was probably a bit too succinct in my reply.

Block him.

@ScreamingValenta the dick comment was lighthearted and your post was very valid, don't worry

He got inappropriate by text message

That's all you need to know.

He's not a friend, he's a player.

Get rid. Re-block, and this time don't unblock.

Don't be made a fool of.

He doesn't sound like much of a friend, or much of a boyfriend. Regardless of your ex not allowing you contact, this man is overstepping boundaries left, right and centre.