To have called him a horrendous hypocrite and a narcissist

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New relationship (now over because he showed every red flag going) but I would like your take on who is BU, or nuts if you will.

During the very early days of the relationship ex would talk about 'friend' he had ceased comms with because he was fantasizing about having sex with her, he believed she 'knew what she was doing' by sending him love hearts and what not, they would chat daily and he implied she was leading him on. She is married with a family however they had been meeting up before we got together because he was providing her with 'support' following a bereavement.

Ex got very angry one day and accused me of being a slut and a cheat, all because I replied to a dubious looking account that was contacting me on social media, I was blunt and very short and just wanted to know who they were and what they wanted. Strange account then sent me an odd message with a sexual undertone and I instantly blocked them. I was transparent with him about this peculiar exchange. This all happened within about 20 mins and I still believe it to be a fake account. There was no inappropriate talk or behaviour on my end.

Shortly after ex begins retweeting and gushing about this 'ex friend' on social media. What a brave courageous woman she is etc. They are interacting alot publicly.

It turns out he has decided to get back in contact with her but they're only 'friends' and im terribly jealous to be about the fact he's pursuing contact with her again. He tries his best to paint me as a nutter who is taking umbrage with a perfectly platonic friendship.

Now I must point out that the relationship is over, I have blocked him so there are no worries there. I don't want to see him again.

However after incessant gaslighting and triangulation I'm wanting to hear others opinions on his behaviour.

Sounds unhealthy and toxic on both sides. No trust there. Best off out of it

Why do you need others opinions?
He's clearly a dick but you've dumped and blocked him so what does it matter.

Ex got very angry one day and accused me of being a slut and a cheat, all because I replied to a dubious looking account that was contacting me on social media, I was blunt and very short and just wanted to know who they were and what they wanted. Strange account then sent me an odd message with a sexual undertone and I instantly blocked them. I was transparent with him about this peculiar exchange. This all happened within about 20 mins and I still believe it to be a fake account. There was no inappropriate talk or behaviour on my end.

He sounds like a knob and you’re well rid but how did he even know about this reply? Did you tell him or did he see it on Twitter?

Sounds to me like he sent you the fake account message tbf

I suspect it was him on the account to begin with, testing me to see if I would respond. However I did put a warning on a public group I was in that the man (also in the group) was contacting female members inappropriately. Ex saw the post.

(I had a post on here at the time about it because he kicked off and blocked me, then came back apologising - I've got him blocked now myself)

I'm not sure why I want opinions really, I guess I'm still annoyed as it's still recent and the hypocrisy of it all has wound me up.

I was curious as to whether others thought he was as hypocritical as I do

This sounds similar to another thread in the last couple of months, where an OP had a LDR, who tried "testing" her with fake accounts.

Can't remember which board it was in, but the bloke sounded seriously dodgy.

Actually, OP, it might have been your previous post I was thinking about.

He's dodgy, alright, you don't need to worry about over-reacting.

You've posted about this man before haven't you?

Just about to say the same thing you've posted about him before. Block and move on.

We weren't in a LDR but I did have a post up in relationships about him because he went bat shit and blocked me. I never managed to prove it was him on the account but do strongly suspect that to be the case.

A friend who didn't know about the split asked how things were going today and it prompted me to think about everything and realise just how much of a twat he was being with his double standards.

He was projecting, OP. Abusers and narcissists do that.

In fact, if you make a point of listening, such a person will tell you everything they are up to disguised as accusations against you!

That moment when you say or think, "Why would you accuse me of that?!" becomes, "Ah, so that's what you're doing!"

If anyone called me a slut it would be over then and there.

He's mad as a lorry.