People who bleat on about world mental health day etc but are total hypocrites

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Sorry but need to rant as this really irritates me
I have people on fb very prolific posters about their own issues and always wanting help and support ........which they get loads of ‘im here for you hun’ etc

It’s all just an act and attention seeking because they know of others going through hell and literally never contact them or ask how they are. Nothing
Yet expect lots of support themselves and say they are always there for others.....it’s rubbish it’s just not true because they aren’t

I think I need to just delete them off fb don’t I I’m just ranting but it really annoys me the fake public persona compared to the truth
World mental health day just seemed to be a platform for this behaviour

I need to just delete them off fb

Yes. Marie Kondo the fuckers into the bin. I don't do FB because it's a cess pit, but on other social media only follow people who's stuff I actively enjoy.

Don’t get me started! There’s a mum who posted all the stuff about “teaching your child to want to be the kind child not the popular one” and her own child has been a complete cow to mine, with diagnosed SEN, for the past few years! Some people just lack the self-awareness or think the sun shines out of their DCs’ backsides.

I’ve deleted them and tbh I think I need a break from fb

Yep it's a day for people to say "my door is always open" to people they wouldn't even acknowledge in the street

‘Marie Kondo the fuckers’

I think Facebook is really bad for everyone’s mental health.

A woman, ex neighbour, who tried to isolate my DD and blame her for everything that ever happened because she had ADHD, which she didn't believe existed, has her FB all about anti bullying and accepting SN differences. She also brought her children up to be bullies.

I have a friend who has a disabled daughter and her FB is full of the bullies from my school, who post in sympathy and all the usual 'what sort of scum are the parents' posts. They would have ripped this girl to bits at school. Their children are no better, either.

I've deleted a few people who i couldn't stand to see their hypocrisy anymore.

Yep this has been upsetting me too. My dh has severe mental health problems, including psychosis. Quite a few of his family members have posted big gushing statuses about mental health, and how they are always there and would never judge.

Not one of the fuckers were there when dh had a psychotic breakdown. Not one. None of them came to visit him in hospital, noone offered any help or support to me as his wife with a small baby at the time.

They know he has been in and out of hospital for years and not once has anyone phoned me to see if I am ok or to ask how he is doing. They are a bunch of hypocrites and it makes me so angry.

The stigma might have gone for depression and anxiety, but its alive and kicking for psychosis no matter what all these twats say on facebook.

The thing is when you are in the depths of depression it can make you quite selfish in that your world seems so much bleaker than everyone else's and you look at other people and maybe don't realise they are struggling too. It can be really, really hard to ask how others are doing when you can barely summon up the energy to care about yourself; that doesn't make it right and it doesn't mean that dealing with people suffering from any MH disorder isn't draining - it absolutely is. But I think it's a little bit harsh to call it attention seeking when in reality that is what the illness does to some people. Obviously it affects everyone differently so not everyone will be that way.
If you can't deal with them then yes unfollow or unfriend them, but I don't necessarily think everyone who makes those posts are being hypocrites, or certainly not on purpose at least.

I deliberately don't join in with the MH stuff because I know that I'm not equipped to actually help people with it, except maybe my very close friends but they wouldn't need me to tell them that on facebook.

When I’m ill myself (bipolar) I literally cannot help anyone, and nor should I really because it could go horrifically wrong!

But I do get what you’re saying. I have people who are like my doors always open for a chat, but they don’t care when I’m trying to top myself!

Like Prince Harry, who can't get out of bed some days because he's so worried about the world?

I think I’ve just taken it personally as I know these people who are posting that they really care about it are absolutely aware of the predicament others are in and choose to totally ignore that whilst telling everyone publicly they are these amazing there for everyone 24/7 mental health ambassadors 😬 when it’s not true they are just saying that then saying about their own issues and getting lots of support and leaving others basically to rot

I don’t know I just feel like I’d had enough so keeping of fb and all the fakeness on there

Oh this drives me mental. My DH has had some quite severe mental health issues over the past few years; he's from quite a large family yet not one of his relatives has thought to pick up the phone to see if he's OK, how he's doing, not even the odd text to say they're thinking of him. In fact quite to the contrary, one or two of them have actually exacerbated his anxiety and depression in the way they've treated him. Yet there are at least 2 or 3 of them who are constantly posting memes and quotes on Facebook along the lines of "I'm always here for my friends", "my door is always open", "it's OK not to be OK", Suicide Prevention things, all the stuff that's done the rounds in recent months. If it meant that much to them they would be there for their own relative. It's all just paying lip-service to an "in" cause I think, people like to be seen to care even though they really don't. The hypocrisy drives me mad.

Yes this has made me both sad and angry. I have actually commented on a couple of people who posted all that ‘I’m always here, my kettles always on’ bollocks to the effect ‘you’re not though are you?’ I have no tolerance any more after the experience of caring for someone with MH issues and people never sending so much as a ‘how are things?’ text.

The stigma might have gone for depression and anxiety, but its alive and kicking for psychosis no matter what all these twats say on facebook.

My brother in law is schizophrenic and you are absolutely correct. Stigma may have lessened for some mental illnesses but people are still unable to deal with others. They don't know what to say, they can be scared by it (and in my brother in law's case that is actually a perfectly reasonable reaction). The media rarely mention it, certainly don't celebrate it. Friends drift away and immediate family are left to carry the load. It can be very lonely

I'm not sure what to think. I guess, most people with mental health issues probably wouldnt post about it as there is a stigma (the point of the day!), whereas people who are attention seeking would... But, it does bring more awareness to everyone, which may make the difference to a 3rd party who is suffering in silence and just needs someone to say 'are you ok'? Iyswim?

I never respond to stuff like that on fb but I have taken it face to face and you can tell if they're genuine or not.

Everyone should consider saying one kind thing to someone. Sometimes the words of strangers mean more because it doesn't have to be said. It makes a difference.

Yep glad its not just me then that hates this stuff. As someone who has people in their family who have serious mental health problems including one suicide, you should see their faces when you do actually open up and share your experiences because they look like they wished they never asked

The things I've witnessed family members doing because of their mental health problems would have some of these people running in the opposite direction. MH issues are incredibly isolating, to people of "sound mind" the seemingly irrational behaviour can be really frightening and its amazing how many people very quickly disassociate themselves from others when the shit hits the fan.

If only it were as easy as sitting down with a cup of tea and talking about your feelings!!

Couldn't agree more.
Just recently I saw loads of copied and pasted posts on fb. You know the ones ..." I'm hear to listen , post this on your wall if you want to get rid of the stigma associated with mental illness, etc etc "
Followed literally a couple of posts later by a 'hilarious' fb game using your friends list in order as to who would be in a mental institution, who would be a window licker, who would help you escape, who would be having hallucinations and so on and so on.