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AIBU?

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Family member cut me off

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mamamasala · 10/10/2019 23:30

Am I an awful person? I've been through a lot recently. I left my abusive ex earlier this year. Had a baby just under a year ago. Suffered with postnatal anxiety. Awful birth, even worse pregnancy. Going through a bitter court battle and live in fear of my ex as courts have deemed him unsafe around his child. He blames me. I've been on verge of breakdown and have had a rough time of it. I seek absolutely zero sympathy. I just want to paint a picture of my life.

Said family member knows all of this. I have been awful on my phone and have about 75 unread messages. I can't bring myself to read or respond to them. It's overwhelming and most friends understand. A couple have been amazing and sent me messages along the lines of 'haven't heard back, don't want to pester you, no need to reply just letting you know I'm here for you. Contact when you're ready. No rush'.

Most people get it. It's easy to post photos on social media and post on Mumsnet. It's not easy to communicate sometimes with real people.

Said family member seems to have cut me off completely. I'm anxious about it. I'm scared to message about it and don't even know if I want to/can be bothered.

AIBU to have been so bad at responding?

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steff13 · 10/10/2019 23:33

What makes you think the person cut you off?

mamamasala · 10/10/2019 23:37

She's not responded to an invitation to a family event I've organised, won't engage in conversation about me apparently and makes sarcastic comments if I am ever mentioned around other family members. Ignored me when I got round to messaging her (I know that sounds hypocritical). She has fallen out with every single friend she has ever had deep down I know this is just her way, but it's making me so so anxious

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mamamasala · 10/10/2019 23:40

The difference is, I wasn't ignoring her specifically. I was ignoring my phone and the dozens and dozens of messages I had. I was overwhelmed and suffering with poor mental health. I have medication now and am slowly on the mend. She's intentionally ignoring and playing games. It all seems so pretty but as an anxiety sufferer I will sit and think about this all night.

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JammyGem · 10/10/2019 23:48

I'm not sure how much difference it makes, but how long did it take you to answer her?

I don't think YABU. But I can also understand why someone might take it personally and gets upset that you've "ignored" them.

mamamasala · 10/10/2019 23:54

Took me about 2 weeks...

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