DH and I are having a baby, a planned for and wanted baby 🙄 but everything feels like it’s going wrong. I got HG and have had the worlds worst pregnancy, students have moved in next door and I can’t sleep without wearing ear plugs (nothing we can do) so having to consider moving.
I keep a finances spreadsheet to manage our savings but DH (not great at communication) thinks it’s ok to tell me he needs to pay a £650 exam fee THE NEXT DAY - no prior warning.
We’ve had a couple of ‘big jobs’ need doing on the house too and (despite our good income and budgeting) our ‘healthy’ savings are pretty much gone.
Then DH (main earner) comes home from work and announces he’s passed his exam (yay!) - so he ‘May’ not have a job for 6 months whilst he transitions from one training scheme to another (Never mentioned before) 🤯 and he won’t qualify for paternity/shared parental even if he gets a temp placement.
All of this he’s awfully relaxed about ... despite knowing I’ll give birth THE MONTH after he may become jobless (and we can’t afford to live on my wage alone). He’s had constant stability for so many years and suddenly, out of nowhere, he throws this at me (with no actual solid info) whilst I’m in my second trimester 😡
I was so careful in planning this pregnancy and now just feel so insecure. AIBU to be a bit fuming at his lack of assertion/concern?? I think he should be making a HUGE effort to resolve the situation/get answers and sort it out but all he does is whine about not getting chance or people not answering the phone!
I told him how irritating I find him always having bad news and half a story and he signed ‘well I just won’t bother telling you anything in future then’ 😡
No! Don’t tell me you may be jobless the month after I give birth but aren’t actually sure because you ‘haven't had chance’ to talk to people about it!