AIBU?

[katjay35]

So after much thought I’ve decided to post on here. I’ve been with my partner for 4 years now and we are married with baby on the way. He has a son with his ex who we adore spending time with but we play to her tune all the time. We always have to cut short days out and weekend trips away because she wants him home at a certain time (he’s 5) and calls to make sure he’s ok all the time. Now I’m getting really fed up of having to cut short these days out and coming home early on our weekends. I have 2 kids too and it’s not fair on them and also, his mother has to spend every weekend with us too. It’s stressing me out. Am I being a cow?

What time is 'early'? Can he not have him overnight so you can work to your own schedule?

Can you ask him to leave his mum at home? (Although this will be the only chance she sees her grandson too so would need to rearrange a day for her to see him)

Why on earth does his mother have to come out with you every weekend?

Can he not just tell ex DS will be home at x o clock and busy so stop bloody checking up.

We get him once a week and 1 overnight stay a month. I’ve said to hubby that he can pop to his mums for a few hours in the morning but not all day because we just sit there and drink tea. My kids are 10 and 12 so we want to be out doing stuff that’s age ok for them all. As for his ex, he plays to her tune all the time. If we go away Friday for 2 nights he has to be home early Sunday morning cutting our time short and that happens maybe twice a year. I feel for my hubby as he is stuck in the middle but I don’t think it’s ok. We asked to take his son to the lakes for a week next year in half term but she said only for 2 nights (it’s all booked and a 3 hour drive away) so he will either have to not take him missing out on time with him or he will have to bring him home which takes a full day of holiday. I just feel that our weekends as a family are ruled by his ex and his mum

I would be unhappy with this situation. It’s unlikely to change and if you push it you’ll be the baddie. Truthfully I’d tell him to go out on his own with his mother and son, and take my kids out separately. If you’re not happy spending every weekend apart then get rid of him.