Other people uploading photos of my baby?

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Think I might be over reacting but I'm currently really annoyed. We have family we don't see often as they live a 4 hour drive away. I send photos regularly of our baby as requested by them. Just found out they're always uploading them onto social media. I haven't used it for a long long time but still have an inactive profile and just looked as my DH told me. I don't want them uploading my photos? Yes they are family but they have lots of people on their friends list I don't know.
Am I being a bit precious or would anyone else feel the same?
Should I comment on the most recent photo and say something?

It’s not unreasonable at all, it’s your child and you have the right to keep them off social media.

Explain you don't want photos up on sm and ask them to take them down. If they don't, don't send them any more pics.

I would absolutely be unhappy about that. Your child your choice about their photos at this stage.

I would be messaging and telling them the photos were for them to see but not for sharing on the internet and ask them to remove them.

They are probably just excited, but they should have checked with you first. I'd just let them know you aren't comfortable and would prefer to keep pictures off social media unless asked first.

Who even does this? So wierd.

No more pics for them. If they lack this level of social media etiquette what else will they be sharing and who with.

YANBU at all. It is 100% your decision & it is pretty common now to keep children off social media until they're old enough to decide for themselves. Though I'm sure it comes from a good place (they are probably just proud family members), I think that you should politely ask them to take any existing pics up & not to post any more online in future without your express permission. Leaving it will just lead to resentment down the line.

I've come to an agreement with my family that they can put a picture of my kids up on soecial occasions (Christmas/Birthdays, etc) but other than that to keep them offline. It keeps the ILs happy without the internet being flooded with photos of my kids.

take any existing pics DOWN not up

I think it’s completely up to you and if you don’t want them up that’s perfectly fine! Personally I wouldn’t put someone else’s kids up myself now because I would worry that they might mind, but in saying that i don’t really put my own up either so that’s probably making me more considerate in that regard!

I never understand people who think it’s ok to stick photos up on SM of other people children, family or not. My BIL does not have any photos of his DC on SM and I wouldn’t dream of adding any and know if I did he would be in touch to take them down. Ask them to take them down and I would stop sending them .

Ask them to take them down and explain you dont want them on SM. Ive had to do this with family, its awkward at first but much easier once it's out there to reinforce

I'm genuinely curious, what is it about their pictures being on social media that you dont like?

Can't speak for OP Tabby, but for me it's a privacy thing. I don't mind the odd photo from a special occasion on someone else's feed, and I put up a few myself from holidays, birthdays etc. But I don't like the idea of DD's whole life being documented on social media without her say so. So I keep it very minimal for now and she can decide her own position when she's older. I don't think anyone ever regrets not having a photo on social media.

Thank you all, some really good advice I have taken onboard.

Tabby I guess it is a privacy thing, photos I've taken of my baby just to be put online for people I don't know to see just makes me feel uncomfortable.

It's just I've genuinely always thought noone else is that interested in pictures of my children. When they go to school, school puts ups pictures on Twitter etc of school trips etc or events and awards and I've always been a bit miffed if my kids aren't in the picture!!

Google Sharenting. It's an interesting read.
We are just starting to see the repercussions of sharing our children's photos over Facebook as they turn into adults.

I don't allow anyone, including myself to share pictures of my children online. Appreciate I'm in a minority here.
I want their online presence to be their choice. At the moment they are too young to make that choice. If they want their baby photos plastered all over Facebook ill happily help them. Once they are old enough to understand online safety and privacy. Which I will teach them.

YANBU. Family members should be respecting whatever your choice is for your children's online presence. I would politely ask them to take them down.

I would message them asking them to remove all photos from social media. If they don’t listen then report all the photos and stop sending them any new ones.