To be annoyed at school

[Ms82]

May be really petty and I'm more than happy to be told I am, and I think the idea is great, truth be told and I think everyone should support such a worthwhile cause but... Daughters school (eldest not there anymore youngest is) are making a very big deal out of wearing yellow for mental health day. Think it's so hypocritical that they are making such a song and dance about it when they literally hounded eldest out of school, refused to support her and made her so uncomfortable in school she tried to kill herself all because the head didn't understand and didn't want to understand mental health and my daughters diagnosed and recognised mental health illness. Annoyed that she's now home schooled and separated from friends because they didn't care about the mental health of their pupils but want everyone to think they do by doing a public gesture. (5 children have moved after being unsupported in mental health issues that I know off in the last year, 3 from eldests year alone) I know I'm annoyed for no reason and I should just support the day and see the bigger picture but I hate the public acceptance when the head in particular is a tool and only wants 'normal' kids in her school (normal being her word).

No I think you're overreacting I'm afraid. Maybe they've learned their lesson and are now doing more to raise awareness.
If you do complain..... please use some punctuation!

I'd probably just keep my younger DC off school for that day (and maybe write a letter explaining exactly why).

I would find it far too upsetting to plaster on a smile and pretend everything is okay.

If the school my DS goes to did this, I would have to say something.

I pulled my DD out of that same school due to severe bullying and the effect it was having on her mental health.

Give your child a lovely day at home with their big sis, talk about mental health and how important it is to take care of yourself and each other.

Bloody hypocrites! That's all I can say about the school.

YANBU, that's a staggering amount of spin over substance and it must be very hurtful.

The only consolation is that them celebrating the day and raising awareness is better than them doing nothing. If they were ignoring the day, that wouldn't make you feel any better at the end of the day. But you have every right to be spitting feathers at the hypocrisy IMO.

this happened to my then 11 y old(15 now)so i understand fully why your angry at the school

he didnt get to the point of trying to commit suicide but had a nervous breakdown,months after taking him out he said he was having thoughts
a y5 teacher bullied him to this point and the head covered it up.he has numerous disabilities and was only at that school 2 months before it happened,it was obvious she wanted normal kids as well
she did what she did because he wouldn't bow down to her(his Oppositional defiant disorder wouldn't allow that)she made his life hell,it only lasted 4 months before i snapped and had her against the wall outside of school by her neck as she physically pushed him through a open door(all the kids confirmed this)but the damage was lasting

i had to resort to home education as well deal with agoraphobia and a 3 and half year breakdown,luckly he wasnt there long enough to lose any major friends but we he made loads in our home ed group

school governors didnt give a shit as he was no longer on their roll so i took it further and after a 18 month investigation the teacher disappeared and the head "retired"he was only in his 40s so iffy

at this point i was at the point of not caring anymore as we were well in to trying to help my son

this happens more frequently than you would think(going off years of support groups)but the head being in a position of power it get sweep under the carpet or kept in school if its a teacher

I can absolutely see why you’re upset by this and I’m so sorry for what your daughter went through

I’d be seething 😤! Unfortunately a lot of schools are like this. It’s utter bullshit and I’d be tempted to write a letter explaining how insensitive you find it and why you’re keeping your daughter home. Discuss mental health and coping strategies and then explain to the school that you’ve educated her on the matter yourself.
I know how frustrating it can be. I’ve heard so many wonderful things about the “great pastoral care and caring teachers” at my daughters old school. The same teachers who ignored the abuse my daughter was getting at school which has left her emotionally battered. It’s hard. Good luck OP. I hope things improve for your daughter and you.

I am very sorry about your elder daughters experiences at school.
But i am a little confused 😕
Do you mean wear a yellow pin, or literally wear a yellow garment? If the latter then obviously she can't if it isn't the uniform

Thanks guys, was a bit upset yesterday about it all but feel better today and sent my youngest in with her donation. I needed a release (as clearly saz85 did 🙄 really don't understand why you stayed to read something you clearly couldn't understand. Just move on to something else, life is too short) once i got it out and vented, I could clearly see the bigger picture, which is more money towards a good cause and more children and parents being made aware. Mad how emotional and upset you can get when it's your child whos been wronged and who's suffered, Also, to answer the question, no they haven't learnt a thing my daughter was one of the first to move, not the last and last week apparently another one left, from a different year though. Today's another day and its onwards and upwards for my girl.