AIBU to think his an arsehole....

[Misskg1982]

So this evening I was chatting to my OH about giving up bootcamp. I attend three times a week and have done so for a year or so now. But recently I returned back to work full time (year maternity followed by 18 months part time). Currently hating work, obvs the hours but am working with an extremely annoying, bone idol person, so work is stressed. So on top of stress, tiredness and a toddler fitness is becoming the last thing on my mind.
Anyways so I say to OH I'm thinking of quitting and instead of an understanding, supportive answer he says "What else you gonna do cause you can't just sit around and get fat". I was fuming, he said I took it the wrong way but what other way is there to take it... AIBU to be upset and angry with him?

Yes he is an arsehole

Tell him to go fuck himself.

YANBU, what does he do incidentally keep fit?

I'd tell him to piss right off

Well it was a crass and insensitive thing to say. But only you know whether he has form for being crass and insensitive, or whether this was out of character.

If it's out of character I'd be inclined to believe him that he didn't mean it the way it came across. An apology would be nice though.

Your OH my have the subtlety of a concrete elephant but he might be trying to say if you give up boot camp, are you really going to feel better or worse?

Oh believe me he got it, both barrels.
I was just then taken back by his reaction of I'm taking it the wrong way... men WTF?

He does take care of himself due to his job but still doesn't give him right to be saying that.

Was it his stupid way of pushing you to stick at it?

Or was he genuinely concerned you would end up fat?

He is an arse either way but one of above is tactless, thoughtless and daft. The other is selfish, shallow and much worse.

Exercise is the best way of dealing with stress. I think it would be a mistake to give it up.
Only you can judge if your Oh is an arsehole really