To ask if you've been married more than once was your second husband the polar opposite of your first?

[PrincessHoneysuckle]

Mine is.

Exh-

Bald
Big Built
Sensitive
Joker
Emotional
Tattoos
Specific hobby
Vagina curled up in horror at the thought of sex

DH-
Hair
Medium build
Confident
Not outwardly emotional
No tattoos
No hobbies
Sexy as fuck

Just wondered if we subconsciously think fuck no when it comes to being with a similar person again.Dh is very much like me and we get along great,the 1st marriage was a mistake obviously.

Jesus there were paragraphs and punctuation when u
I did this post! Bloody app.

Well I suppose it makes sense that you wouldn't go for the same again.
Certainly in my case my exh is very different to my boyfriend now in looks and personality...personality being the key thing for me-my exh is...to me anyway....not that nice...

It's just strange for me as I've always had a "type" and dh is the opposite to what it usually is.In a good way though .

Some people choose a second spouse who is literally identical to the first and I’ve never personally understood it.

I don’t think any of my exes look alike at all, not one bit and I can’t think of many similar characteristics between them either. I’ve never had a type.

@Whattodoabout have they had similar personalities?

Many of my friends commented that my now DH is very alike an ex LTR, I didn't and still don't see it at all! However ex and I split because we were at different life stages at different times not for any negative reasons so I guess that's likely in a way!

God yes. No way would I have made the same mistake twice!

Dh is the only person I've been involved with that hasn't had tattoos and I'm the only person hes been with who has!

@chocolatesaltyballs22 highfive

Ex was a womaniser, a liar and a useless Father. Physically he was bald short and round. My DH now is faithful, honest as the days long and a good Dad to his children and a great friend to my 3, he is also my DGD favourite person in the world. Physically is very tall, but he is balding

@Lowlandlucky I'm glad u found a good one

My ex was:
Great at tech
Rubbish at DIY
Really, really lazy at housework, left it all to me even though we both worked full time
Medium build, dark

Dh is:
Great at tech
Great at DIY
Great with housework
Large build, blonde

So not a total opposite except for the housework thing, which I left my ex over, so that's an important thing for me.

Exh

5ft 6in
Slim
Timid
All round nice guy to everyone
Always went out if his way to help everyone
Coward, never said no to anyone
Was quite happy to stand by when a male neughbour threatened to sit my throat
Abusive behind closed doors
No tattoos
Brown hair
Blue eyes
Never paid attention to his appearance
Decided he wasnt bothers about his kids once I left.

Husband to be

6ft 4in
Massive shoulders, arms, chest
Black hair
Brown eyes
Generally looks grumpy and people are often intimidated by him
Actually a big softy that like nothing more than a cuddle.
Always has my back even with his own family
Loads of tattoos
Pays quite a bit of attention to his appearance.
Always treats me and my kids like we are the most important people in the world.

Absolute polar opposites!

Well I met my exH at 21 and it took 9 years of growing up and realising what kind of partner I actually wanted before I was ready to meet my DP. But yeah they are total opposites in a lot of ways!