To be upset with DH about Universal Credit claim?

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DH works FT but in a minimum wage job. I’m not working atm (SAHM to year old twins) but I’m currently looking for a part time job.

We receive some universal credit. It’s not a huge amount, but enough to mean we can make it through the month. I logged into our account tonight (I check it a few times a week) to discover our claim has been closed! I dig a little further and see that it’s because DH was asked to reaccept his claimant commitments (you get asked to do this randomly sometimes) by the 30th of September. He failed to do so and our claim has been closed!

I’ve just informed him of what’s happened and been shouted at for my tone of voice. We will have no payment this month and I’m going to have to restart our claim. I was stressed enough about money to start and now I just feel like this is a step too far.
I know UC is a bastard but AIBU to be so furious and upset?

No you aren't being unreasonable. If you've got a message in your "journal" or "to do list" , they text you asking to log on. He's obviously ignored it for some reason.

He says he didn’t see it

He’s also just confirmed he never logs into his journal. He’s just said he’s working so why should he have to.

I honestly despair!

They’ve never text me asking to log on but they do email me notifications when something needs attention.

They will contact you by whatever method you chose at disclosure. So your DH must have chosen to receive notification by SMS and you by email. You could always change his email address to yours and then get his notifications by email. That way, theh will all go to your email address.

I think he chose email as well.

I’ll ask to change it when I go to the new appointment I’m now going to have to attend.

Thank you btw

Your partner needs to pay more attention, especially when it comes to joint finances. I second the idea to put all the new contact info as just your number or email, then you'll definitely be notified.

My partner and I have a joint claim, so I can see what needs actioned in his "to do" when I log in under my username (but can't actually do it myself, I need to then tell him he's got something he needs to deal with)

Will you both have to go to new claimant commitment appointments as it's a new claim?

@Marshmallow91 I suppose you could say I’m at fault as well because I missed it when I logged on as well. I’m just so sick of worrying about money and this is the final
Straw. We’ll end up borrowing from my parents. It’s so embarrassing

How does DH think you are going to manage without the UC money this month? I can understand him being annoyed, at himself, for his own ineptitude but he shouldn't be taking it out on you.

Definitely worth sorting as then you can get help with nursery costs if you need a nursery if you get a pet time job

@Iheartdonuts I don’t know. Last time they closed our claim (DH employers grossly over reported his earnings for the month) I had to go but DH didn’t. They said because he is already working FT he didn’t have to attend.

The rules always seem so utterly random.

@Maltay oh it has to be sorted. We won’t be able to survive without it. Not until I find a new job anyway!

YANBU (and your husband is an arse)

Good luck op, from my experience men are all the same and need to be constantly organised!

Maybe make him do the running on the rapid reclaim so he sees the consequences and less likely to do it again.

@Difficultcustomer I’d love to do that, but it’s too important the claim gets restarted. I’ve got two babies to think about. If not for them I’d live on baked beans just to teach him a lesson!